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The danger of opening the heart

I just came across someone stating that “opening the heart can be dangerous”. I know many people believe the same and of course a broken heart is the main reason why people search my advise and healing skills. Well,…what is indeed dangerous are people that don´t dare opening their heart. If you look around in the world you will recognize it´s the ones that do not dare to love whom are causing the trouble. Obviously they create pain for others, but on the long run also for themselves. And when we allow it, pain is infectious.

What people mean when they say they fear to open their heart is, that they do not trust in their own abilities. The abilities to make wise decisions, to have integrity, decisiveness…and when all of the above fails: in their ability to recover.

The benefit of an often broken heart is that you´ll discover that you are invincible.

Truth is that when you are a loving kind person, you’ll attract lots of nice people, but between them will be a few that take your open heart for weakness and try to take advantage of it. Happened a million times to me…until I realized nothing ever happened to me. I am happy, alive and thriving, while a lot of those people trying to fool and hurt me are miserable, unhappy or already dead. The old ways don’t work anymore. The light is winning and to enter the team one has to open the heart. There’s no other way to thrive in the new energies.

What happens when an open heart meets a closed one? Truth is that I prefer loving kind people, but in the end all is serving me, that is coming my way. And I have found my strength and integrity when I dared to love myself and others. There´s a saying:”What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.” Well even when it killed me, it made me not only stronger, but also wiser. I know I can handle everything and still love deeply.

Because I love deeply, I can handle everything. That´s what you´ll find out, when you dare it.

Hurt people hurt people. When you close your heart you´ll add to the problem. When you open your heart you become a living so(u)lution.

Shine your light, dear One <3

 

The Lack Mentality – One of humanities biggest obstacles

We do not have wars, criminality and pollution because of lack of ressources. We have lack of ressources because of our Lack Mentality.

The global level is created by the sum of all individuals. It can therefore only be solved on that personal level. You may be angry at the government or curse Monsanto, but they only exist because we let them. They are created as an expression of our thoughts, feelings and actions. When we buy their product we make them big. When we refuse to feed them, they´ll crumble. Some people might some day start to create apps to inform us, whom we are giving our money and what these companies invest in. This might change this planet very quickly. “They” won´t change until we change. And that´s a real big task, cause we are collectively trapped in a consciousness that is trained to compete, rule, dominate. And all of that not in a playful, easy way, but with much seriousness, as the feeling behind it is fear. Everyone is hunting and hoarding all day, every day, because of that deeply ingrained believe in lack.

Watch your childrens games. Do they express joy and creativity or is it a training for the lifelong hunt for better, higher, more? There´s nothing wrong with trying to evolve, that´s the expressive, playful way to live a joyous life. The intend behind the action makes the difference between heaven and hell. Joy and self-expression or fear and lack.

When people act out desctructive, it is out of lack. There are many forms of perceived lack, lack of time, self-worth, trust, opportunities, love, freedom. And most of them are an inner idea and not an outer reality. Of course, when you have no food and no shelter, you´ve gotta take actions for your survival. But even than it is not helpful to take actions out of a beggars mind. Don´t get me wrong, I have met beggars that have been richer and more free in their mind, than others living in a huge villa. It is again the mindset, that makes the difference.

The reason why some beggars I met have been free and rich, was that they never felt unsafe. They trusted in life. They had nothing to loose and found their own form of happiness. I´m sure they´ve not been the average homeless, they´ve been sended to me to give me master-lessons and I honour them, by sharing their gift with you.

We may wish for many things, but we are all challenged the most when our lack is seen on our bank-account, that´s when we can sing mantras all days long, but cannot get rid of that naggin´feeling inside.

A few years ago, the universe gave me an awesome lesson in the money-area. I had left my safe life, to do what I love. But as I didn´t trust in my future I´ve been struggeling with my business. The Law of Attraction never fails. Lack attracts lack. I realized what was going on, and thought that I need to get rid of that feeling of lack, so I ordered a big pile of money by the universe, to be able to keep on with what I really love: my writings and spiritual studies. I wrote a message on a piece of paper every day, saying that by the 11th of May I´ll have that amount of money and added a few actions throughout my days to brainwash myself out of the lack. Well, nothing seemed to happen…On the 11th of May I was disappointed that I didn´t manifest my abundance and questioned myself. Well it´s been already end of May, I had searched for and found a part-time job meanwhile, when I looked into my diary and it hit me like a hammer. The universe had answered my wish, without me realizing it! It has been the 10th of May in the afternoon, when a friendly voice on my mobile had informed me, that they´d love to make a contract over four years with me. It´s very ununsual to get a four year contract in public service. When I did the math what the netto-income in these four years would be, it´s been exactly the number I had written down. My angels have a gorgeous sense of humor. The universe hadn´t delivered what I thought I needed, a pile of money. It gave me safety, cause that´s what my feeling of lack has really been about.  I am 48 years now, every day in my life I have had a roof over my head and food, sometimes very simple, sometimes really luxurious, but heaven has never let me down. Not even when I didn´t believe in myself, but in lack.

This experience reminded me of the Kryon-Channeling when he talked about the Israelites walking for 40 years through the desert, being fed for 40 years, but worrying and complaining every day. When he was in Tel Aviv this year, he told the audience that nothing has changed, that they´d still walk in circles. And it is true. We all do. We all believe in lack.

How to change it? A few days ago, I wrote how we can focus on the areas of our life, that are abundant: Klick on the link, to get to the article. And a while ago, I wrote about, how to create reference-points, to attract manifestations.

Gratitude is key to leave lack behind. Having a gratitude-journal is still one of the best ideas. But you need the right kind of feeling to make it work . Therefore I recommend another article about the -right-kind-of-gratitude/.

To leave lack behind we need to find inner freedom, peace and trust. Than all that we really need, will show up. Sometimes we insist stubbornly on a wish, that is not in our highest interest. I have received some lessons in that area, realizing afterwards that all was always as it should be. And beware, lack is infectious as others tell you their standards, how you have to prove that you are good enough. Old earth lack consciousness. Don´t join them. Leave the desert and be happy, grateful and celebrate life, no matter the circumstances. Be the change.

Open and true communication

There seem to be so much communication going around, but when we take a closer look a lot of it is just noise. It is distracting, confusing and even creating division instead of understanding.

We do not use communication for what it was ment to be, to show ourselves truly, to exchange points of views and experiences, to than gain better understanding of “the other”. Instead we show a false persona and speak hollow words.

Instead of true communication we lie, cheat, manipulate, fool each other (and of course ourselves, as we try to convince ourselves very often through our talk). Why? Because we think we are not good enough. That we wouldn´t be accepted when we show ourselves truly and freely. We believe to be seen as weak or vulnerable when we really speak our truth.

Well, I find the opposite to be true. The more I am aware of my own strenght, the more I am able to be open. When something is needed in this time of masks and illusions than it is true, open communication.

Real communication brings us to a place where we are able to see what we might have in common and that leads to a union beyond our diversity. There is always much more we have in common with people, than what seperates us from them. Even enemies have often much in common: Their fear, their investment in lack-mentality, their longing for safety and their believe the other would prevent them from being safe and having enough.

People are afraid others wouldn´t respect them, if they knew their weakpoints. Well, when you allow yourself to show your true self you will respect yourself for your strenght and authenticity. If you respect yourself, your weakpoints stop being weakpoints, it is just the perfect imperfect way the divine shows itself through you. The ones that than turn their back on you, not allowing your honesty, have never been a real match. It is perfect that they run to worship another illusion, to distract them from their own vulnerability. You want people that love you for who you are, and they are not able until now.

Someone told me lately that I would be too open, that I would expose myself, when talking about childhood trauma or about having had an ailment. That as a healer, teacher and a living Rose I should be an example of the divine and therefore be the best I can be. Well, I had a good laugh. Cause that is what I am. Being aware of my divine self, although I was abused as a child or having myomas. I chose that path, to be as divine AND imperfect as everyone else. To show that we are always perfect in our imperfection. Always loved, no matter what happens and that we can heal ourselves, cause everything we need to overcome our obstacles is already within us and around us. Showing my perfect imperfections is the very best I can provide.

The new healer, teacher is not showing only one aspect of himself, the divine self, s/he is showing them all, cause the most important teaching and healing s/he is providing is the truth, that you have it all inside of you also. If they are imperfect humans, your imperfection is okay, if they are divine, you are divine.

True communication shows all that you have inside. Others will  compare notes and choose what is helpful for them. In this way we benefit from communication. We have fooled ourselves and others long enough. Time to get real, to really show up, to really exchange our knowledge and truth.

When people speak to me one-on-one they dare to be real, to speak their truth, show their weakpoints. They know they can trust me, because I have been through it all myself. I know darkness, that´s why I can hold the light. I am compassionate, not because I am more holy than they, but because I am human, just like they. We have to make peace with our human self to embody the divine self.

When there is nothing to hide, that´s how we truly shine your light!

Love thy monsters – Shadows uncovered

In the shadows resides all that can´t be accepted and loved. That is how shadows are created: through shame, guilt and rejection. A child cannot stand it to be not good, not lovable and as such experiences cause the feeling of heartbreak it puts all that s/he is thinks will cause these feelings in the unconscious shadow realms of its being.

So it is no wonder when these aspects feel angry or depressed and go on a rampage of destruction. Whenever someone acts out in a destructive way it is never his/her true divine self, but a shadow aspect. Don´t join them in their game. Every time you get triggert by someone elses shadow you can be sure he matches your own. You can not convince a shadow with arguments, he is stubborn and tricky at the same time, you cannot win such a game.

There are only two thing you can do:

1.) send love and compassion to this aspects

2.) avoid to get entangled in any way.

The more ugly these aspects seem to you, the more love and compassion they need.  And if you deal with someone elses shadow it is sometimes better to send them love and light on the inside but stay away from them, as they are too suspiscious to accept your love. That´s a lesson I recieved. A shadow aspect doesn´t trust love and is afraid to get hurt again, so chances are high he is making sure he is right. We are mighty creators, even when we don´t know it. Sooner or later someone will say or do something the shadow sees as a prove and fullfilment of his/her negative expectation. Shadows are experts in creating self-fulfilling negative prophecies. Therefore you won´t be able to help someone else transform its shadow unless he is totally dedicated himself to do it.

But you can take care for your own aspects instead of focussing on others. Dealing with the shadows of other is in many cases anyway just a trick of your own shadow to distract you, so he isn´t himself in your focus.

How to deal with your shadow?

Totally accept his feelings of anger, sadness, shame or whatever may show up. Don´t suppress it, don´t ignore it and don´t fight it. Allow it. Hold it. Listen to it, but don´t believe the dark stories of no-love he tells. Just know that he believes in them. Your shadow is like a child trapped in a nightmare. How would you treat a child with a nightmare? Tell him there are no ghosts and leave him alone in the dark? Or maybe it is a much better idea to comfort your inner child until it feels safe. Turn on the light, comfort him and make sure noone is in the cupboard or under the bed. Sing him a song of birds and sunshine, hold the child in your loving arms to keep all monsters away. And when they should show up again make them a chain…out of daisies, color their claws and invite them to sing and dance with you. Love, joy and happiness are the mightiest forces in all of creation.

Shine your light precious soul!

No more abandonment and rejection

Insights & PerspectivesPosted by Natalie Sun, October 30, 2016 07:04:06

Abandonment is an issue many of us had to deal with and it had been my own core-wound. As I know how painful it may be, I am dedicating this little article to all that are experiencing abandonment and rejection in any form. Know that you are dearly loved – always!

First of all we´ve got to make clear that another person might be abandoning you, but it is the own interpretation of not being wanted and accepted, that is bringing up feelings like unworthiness, depression, grief and heartbreak. Your own feelings about the actions of the other person are harming you.

Seen from a higher perspective these experiences and feelings will lead you to their opposite, to fulfillment, joy and unconditional love. And it is not „the other,“ but you owning the key for this paradise.

See, it is the human self of the other involved person, that is acting this way. When we take a closer look, s/he isn´t abandoning you, but the feeling within themselves that you are representing for them. And no, this feeling has in most cases nothing to do with who you really are, but how they percieve you and the situation.

If there ever existed an unwanted child it´s been me. Until this very day my mother can´t stand my face, voice or presence in any form. The reason for that has nothing to do with my true self and not even with my human persona. One of her reasons is guilt. For her this guilt is an inner reality and she doesn´t want to look at it. With every act of denial and rejection her guilt is even growing, but all of that has nothing to do with who I am. I don´t even believe something like guilt is existing. I wrote a whole chapter about it in my last book. Responsibility is a truth, but guilt isn´t real. But to my mother her inner feeling is reality, while I could stand next to her filled with love´n light, but that won´t change her perception and actions. As I found out, my inner light made it even more uncomfortable for her to be with me than it used to be while I accepted my role in this drama.

I describe this to make it obvious that it is not you being rejected or abandoned, it is the other person, cutting herself off from their feeling, that they for some reason associate with you. It has normally nothing to do with you at all. Read it again and understand it. It is not your faulth!

You wouldn´t feel abandoned if this person wouldn´t mean a lot to you and you might say your pain also comes from the feeling that the other person doesn´t allow your love. You might say it is painful to not being allowed to be with that person and to express your love.

That is not so.

First of all: Noone is able to forbid love. You might love the other one as long as you want. Heartache isn´t occuring because of the abandonment, but because of you trying to close your heart. So it is you hurting yourself. Don´t do that. Never stop yourself from loving. And in such a situation your most love has to go to yourself. When you are able to love you are a blessing to this world. You are created out of lovelight and you´re having access to your inner lovelight, no matter what the outer circumstances may be. Give your love to yourself, you really deserve it.

Abandonment was my best teacher for unconditional love, but it took me quite a while and many, many tears until I was able to learn it. I share this to make it easier for you.

My own turning point came in a strange relationship to a guy some years ago. It felt almost schizophrenic as it was obvious that we had a really strong inner connection, but we brought forth the worst in both of us. Every time I would come close somehow, he acted out really rejecting and cruel. So we had an on/off relationship with a lot of arguments and turmoil. The universe always gives perfect scenarios for our lessons.
See, this guy had the worst fear of them all: He´s been afraid of love, what is more common as one might think. So it´s been the perfect dance: I represented love to him and he represented love for me – but because of our wounds we coudn´t be together, without hurting each other deeply. In this case it had to be me who finally had to close that door. Not because I stopped loving him. No, it´s been out of love, for him and for me, that I had to leave and that´s been the so(u)lution for our unsolvable problem.

The higher truth is always one of love. It is also the higher truth behind your own situation, no matter how painful it may feel like.

To assist you changing your perspective, here are some questions that might help you:

1) Do you understand that you are the beloved child of god?

2) Do you love and accept yourself fully?

If there is a no, you have found the reason for your pain. It´s not the other. It is you, not seeing your souls truth. If you can´t give a yes, you are not alone, cause not many people on this planet can answer with a yes. So, that´s your point where you have to work on, if you don´t want to experience these painful situations again and again.

To help you letting go of „the other“ here are two more questions:

1) What might it be that you are representing for the other, that s/he cannot stand?

2) Do you agree, that the other is an independent person, free to choose any perception and experience that is needed for their souls path?

You have to understand that god allows all of us to express themselves fully. If god lets them, even when they destroy themselves, it is not up to you to force anone to anything. If you feel like, it is your resistance and lack of trust in the higher purpose of all that is you have to work on.

But again the key to end your pain is in your own pocket, not in the others.

And in the end I´ve got to tell you a truth:
Abandonment is an illusion, it doesn´t exist.

We are all part of the OneLove of creation – how could one part of the eternal soup of love cut off another? The idea is even laughable.
If someone tries so, they are not in alignment with their inner truth, that is always one of love.

In the case of the guy that feared me because I represented love I made contact with his Higher Self, while leaving him in daily life behind. That´s been the reason, why I recieved a higher perspective. So I was able to let go, as I knew our love is true and real and all is well. I accidently met him again a few years later and there was nothing but love between us, but he´ll have a long path until he is able to integrate and live love fully, so we wont be together in this lifetime. He needs other lessons, that I can´t and won´t give to him.

You might try to connect your own Higher Self, maybe in a guided meditation, to find out what is the real lesson behind the outer experiences. If you did so and have been able to let go, you might than ask your Higher Self to make contact to the Higher Self of the other, to get the bigger picture.

That is what I am doing when cases like my mother show up in my life. See, no Higher Self of another person would ever abandon another. They are made out of pure Love. That is the reason why I said abandonment doesn´t exist at all, no matter how painful it feels like, it is not true from the higher perspective.

Even the Higher Self of persons abandoning and hurting you, are in love with you.

Allow that. Make peace and give love to the other and recieve love from the other. The eternal love is with you, every breath you take, every step you make. You are never without it. Can you allow it to be with you?

Feel loved, dear ones.

Shine your light!