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Twin Flames – The purifying Love

Meeting your Twin is the most purifying love experience you will ever have. It will bring up everything in your being that isn´t balanced.

It may seem like heaven and hell at once, as your reactions towards each other can be really extreme and only someone who has met his/her own twin can understand what´s going on. The rest of the world might just think you are crazy.

As we know how unusual this experience is, but also how important on your souls journey, we bring together 3 of us Twins on next Friday, May 25th 2018 for a quantum healing webinar about the topic of the twin flame. No matter if you met your Twin already or want to prepare yourself for this magic moment, you might benefit greatly from this event. Therese Wenk and me are collaborationg again on this event, to work with the participants on an energetic level, as we are both quantum healers. My speciality is more on the emotional level, while Therese is more focussed on the DNA and this combo really rocks, as we can offer you a state of emotional balance and if you choose so, assist you to anchor it on the physical level.

For me personally meeting my Twin was something I didn´t understand at that point in time and that literally brought me to my knees. Although I thought for a while I might be cursed because of the intensity of the experience, it has really been a blessing as it was a major step on my own journey until I finally became the ” healer of hearts”. To meet my twin cracked my heart open and teached me unconditional love. What many people don´t want to accept is, that you have to become whole within yourself, have balanced your own inner male/female aspects to be able to live the heavenly version of the Twin Flame Story. So instead of focussing on what the other is doing wrong or how terrible outer conditions are, it´ll benefit you more when going inside and taking full responsibility for your own Souls Journey. Love yourself unconditionally, integrate all your aspects, including your shadows, is the key to be ready for this epic Lovestory. As it is epic as can be. When two come together, who are already whole within themselves, they can literally move mountains. Nothing is impossible for true love. May you find it…and embody it.

Shine your Lovelight <3

Save your seat, by clicking on this link. For live-participants the replay is inclusive. If you can´t make it at the given time, register anyway, as this is taking place in the quantum field and the replay is just as effective as being a live-participant. To buy the replay later just use the same link. If you prefer to enter live, check out your timezone, to convert 7 p. m. Berlin/Zurich into your local time.

When someone does you wrong…do not allow them

When people do you wrong….do not allow them. How? By making sure you will not leave yourself and the loving truth of your heart.

It doesn´t matter if they try to steal, cheat, manipulate, deceive or accuse you. Do not give in. Feel inside of you, be honest and true to yourself and it doesn´t matter what others express about themselves. And there´s no need to argue with them. You do not need to convince someone or be convinced by someone. Don´t enter someone elses game and do not try to drag others in yours. Just stay loyal and true towards yourself. Listen to your own inner voice and truth.

For many years…and many lifetimes…I couldn´t understand why people would do these things to me….kill me after I healed them, abandoned, deceived and abused me as an answer to my Love. If you feel that way, you can only end the heartbreak and pain when changing perspective. Come to the point where it has no meaning at all what others express about their character and values. It´s none of your business and goes home with them. The only thing that matters is that you shall not leave yourself or let yourself down. Always and under all circumstances you have to stand loyal and true towards yourselve.

Nothing shall come between you and you.

I am loving myself no matter what. And by the way I love my wrongdoer relentlessly. I will not allow their malicious ways to infect me and the beauty of my heart. I will never give in, I am stubborn about my love as can be. I turn anything used against me into fuel of compassion. They need it, they are onto a long, long road of painful experiences. They will not escape themselves, no matter their games, distractions and deceptions.

No one can escape themselves. And all human distortion is caused by the effort to do so.

People want someone else to love them, as they do not love themselves. They try to steal others time, money, attention, energy, as they have lost  their connection home. Someone who is one with him/herself is connected with the source of all that is.

When being aligned with yourself you change from beggar to sovereign.

As I love everyone relentlessly, do I turn the other cheek? Pfft. I am a living bridge to the New Earth, that for sure doesn´t mean people are allowed to walk all over me. It´s an energetic so(u)lution. They can not cross, when not a match. It´s as easy as this. Pretending doesn´t work. You´ve gotta be it.

So you may just relax. No one can do you wrong, they all screw themselves and stay behind. Just walk on. Enter the vibes of the New Earth. It´s absolutely safe and pure there.

Why true love scares the sh*t out of people

Everybody talks about love. But what most people mean by love is that they want to have, own, consume something. True Love, the way I see, feel, express it, is something totally different for me and it really scares people. It´s too much. That´s why I have been too much all my life and why I have been hiding my true being for so long.

When I am talking about Love I speak about a feeling that is living inside of me, it is awakened when something or someone reminds my of my essence. Can be anything or anyone. A cat strolling along the street, a toddler reaching out to a flower, a twinkeling star on the nightsky, the laughter of a woman, the smile on a face, the tender touch of a hand, the way someone plays the piano or jumps into a puddle. It touches my heart, the Rose inside of me. I enjoy what I witness, but I do not need to own it, grab it, consume it. I am that I am. Noone can take anything from me, therefore I do not need anything and can enjoy all along my way.

To step into the awareness of my lovelight brings out extreme reactions in people. Some start crying, because they are not used to it to be really seen, loved, valued. It´s a release and surrender into the truth of their beautyful eternal being.

And some start to attack me, searching for my imperfections as they can not accept that they are perfect in my eyes. Not because I turn a blind eye. I´ve got a virgomoon in my natal(ie) chart. I see all, every “imperfection”, believe me. And even more, my pisces venus feels your discomfort, my mercury in aquarius just knows about your judgements. But see, to me all of the above doesn´t matter. It is not what you are, but a momentary state. It´s the way the divine chose to express itself, so I am fine with it. The one attacking me and/or denying himself not. You wouldn´t believe what BS people tell me, why they are not worthy or they look at me and tell me why I am still not good enough to be a master. Says it all, why they can not be a master in their minds eye. And so they go on another rampage, another run, another round of denial and it´s all fine with me. It´s all perfect.

It´s been the reason why I have been hiding my true nature for so long. I wasn´t ready to deal with it, it broke my heart a million times and time just wasn´t ripe before. Now it is, I will no longer hide to make it more comfortable for those that might get a spiritual sunburn, or loveburn. This world needs more love, not less.

I write this to remind you, that you are not better or less than I am. Nobody is. Just be yourself, shine the way the lovelight wants to express itself through you. You are beautiful beyond measure and you are dearly loved. That´s all and it´s all that is.

When you love yourself you become free

Today its been four years ago, that I decided to “love, honor and respect myself”. I married myself and started a journey to integrate all of my aspects and to create peace within. I acted spontaneously, because I had enough from the distorted games between men and woman. I understood that searching for fulfillment through someone else was madness. I had always taken other people way too serious and that made me vulnerable and undermined my self-worth. Others had been able to fool, manipulate or dominate me…in the name of love. I realized that to “need” another being to be happy, was pure madness. It´s been normal, everybody played these distorted games, but that didn´t mean that their normal was healthy for me.

To “marry myself” not only changed my point of view on partnering, but on all kind of relationships. I hereby freed myself and those around me. I started to accept myself more and more, to bring back my own aspects and I started to live the only eternal lovestory we all experience, the one with my divine core, my essence, my soul self.

When we need “the other” to be our fairy tale, s/he has to behave as we wish and expect them. That´s not love, that is slavery. You are the one to make yourself happy, to fulfill your dreams. To love ourselves is the end of all excuses. If we are not happy it is because of us, not because of someone else.

Most of my relationships of all kinds became much better the last four years. As I do not need others, I can really enjoy being with them. I love to co-operate with others, to exchange wisdom, points of view,  experiences…or to just be with them, to enjoy our being together. That doesn´t even need a reason at all.

Of course there are still people I do not get along with very well, but I just let them be. Everyone is as free as I am. The only real trouble I experience once in a while is with needy people. They will try to hold me accountable for all they do not create themselves in their lifes. As they are no sovereigns, they will try all: domination, manipulation, lies, demands, blame, shame, guilt, scapegoating, projection, denial and revenge. And they find a thousand reasons why I have to be, do and act as they want me to.  But it all comes to one point: They need slaves to fulfill their needs, as they do not dare to be sovereigns and to take responsibility for their own being.

Please do, as to love, honor and respect yourself will free you <3

The EmPath and his relationships….with narcissists

All in the universe is looking for balance. The Empath is the universes answer of a world full of  narcissistic Psychopaths. Like magnets these two extreme types of personalities are dragged to each other. Mostly this is ending in pain, vain and tears, until we learn the lesson.

Mankind in general is until now in a child-like state of consciousness. We are trained to believe that someone else has to fullfil our wants and needs and is to blame when things aren´t going well. In this playground-scenario the little narcissist is the sandbox-bully and the little empath the nice kid, that is always bullied and therefore sweet, but in tears most of the time. Of course these are clichés and in real life we see many variations, but the cliché helps to paint the picture.

The point is that an empath is feeling other peoples emotions and he gives priority to the well-being of others. Believing that other peoples happiness will lead to his own fullfilment. Well somehow, in a very twisted way, that fits with the narcissist, who knows only one priority: His own well-being, believing the whole world has to care about him. And when you fullfil his wants and needs he can be quite charming, but the tiniest thing can also turn him into a monster. Well, together they both have been forming the normal disfunctional relationship on planet earth. The empath has been the caring part, trying to fullfil everybodies needs and desires, but often becoming unhappy, cause his own needs have not been met by the others. Their counterpart has been demanding in some way, making the rules, claiming attention and admiration. If someone doesn´t obey, he´s been punished in some way. Often by rejection, abandonment or by trying to awake feelings of guilt within the empath, who than tries even harder to please the narcissistic person. That´s the most common relationship pattern of the empath. Not only when it comes to partnering, but also with family, friends or co-workers.

As I am an empath myself and therefore know that dynamic just too well, I discribe how important it is to leave this destructive pattern behind out of the empath point of view. Until now I have not met narcissistic people, who really wanted to change. Of course they pretend they will, but they don´t really mean it. It´s just part of their game. Why should they change at all? If their life falls into pieces they blame everybody else and try to re-gain their power over you through manipulation. And in case that isn´t working, they´ll look out for the next empath to energetically feed off.

The moment when we realize that pattern, we might get sad or angry. But you don´t have to, cause realizing the pattern is already the way out. There´s also no point in blaming others or yourself. Just leave your pattern behind, that´s all.

Please understand that both involved personalities are the different side of the same coin, as they are created the same way, through a difficult childhood, where they didn´t receive true love. And true love, for themselves, is the real so(u)lution for both, to leave the repetition-mode behind. I wrote about it a while ago: The cursed children.

Here are a few points that might help the Empath:

  1. Take care for yourself like you take care for everyone else you truly love. Become your own lover, friend, child. I know it is not easy, but it will turn out to be really fun and joyful.
  2. Take time for yourself. Make sure you have top-priority. In case you never find time, make an appointment with yourself. And do not miss it for someone else!
  3. Fill your cup first. Activities many empaths enjoy to fill their batteries are: being in nature, listening to music, creating arts or to take time for wellness treatments.
  4. Breathing-technics or meditation to center within themselves are very helpful for empaths. When you are anchored and aware, others can not steal your energy that easy as they used to.
  5. Understand that if you are stable and joyful, you´ve got way more to give. Self-care has an important, positive effect, also on your environment.
  6. Trust in others, that they are capable. If they are not challenged they can not grow. Sometimes the best help is no help.
  7. Fixing other peoples issues is easy…caring for the own is more difficult. Stop distracting yourself with other peoples stuff. Face your own issues.
  8. Only help others, when they ask for it. And stop helping them, when they do not value it. Why? Out of respect for others and yourself.
  9. Surround yourself with other empathic people, cause they can understand you and you will do each other no harm, but you´ll cheer each other up.
  10. Feel loved by a higher source. When the divine loves you, cares for you, than there´s no reason to not do the same for yourself also.

I remember that I´ve been visiting a seminar of Shamir Ladhani in the first days of 2016. When I asked him what to do as an empath to not be so drained, he answered that I have to listen to “my own song” instead of the noise of this world. I felt a bit frustrated, cause I knew he was right, but I didn´t know how to get there. 1,5 years later I can state that it is still not always easy, but that I have made a huge progress. I can assure you that to listen to the own song is really key. Empathic people have so much to give, make sure to be an overflowing fountain and not a muddy puddle.

Please stay away from all toxic relationships. This is something I had to learn the hard way myself. It is so easy for me to love and I want all people to thrive, so I attracted the wrong people (they are not really wrong, cause they are the right ones to train us out of our pattern). But even when I recognized this pattern, I still had another obstacle. I have high standards and insisted that I have to be able to deal with the difficult people. That´s been nonsense. Please don´t do that to yourself! If you are too sensitive for a bully, than just stay away. If someone else is drinking poison (acting out destructive), why  should we join that person? To prove how strong we are and how much we love them? If we love them and us, we break the pain-chain. When we want to prove our strenght, we shall use this strenght to walk our own path. It´s not easy for an empath to not get effected by the feelings of their surrounding, but we didn´t come here to suffer with others. When we get affected or even infected by others feelings, that´s not helpful for anyone. Train yourself to listen to your own beautiful song and make sure to not weaken yourself and to not spend too much time with difficult people.

An empath is a very precious thing. This world needs people that are able to feel love and compassion. We came to send out high vibrations, to infect this world with love, not to be dragged down by those that enjoy destruction. Spend your energy in things and people that are constructive.

Shine your empathic light!

 

 

The Mind-Behaviour-Gap

While  chatting yesterday with an always inspiring friend, I wrote: “People are not who they want to be.” Well, that´s something, that I´ve seen quite often in my life. People talking about how much they enjoy harmony, while behaving passive-agressive. They are preaching about truth and authenticity, while behaving manipulative. Seeing it within others has always been a reminder for me to stay grounded.

I guess that´s what Kryon means when he spoke about  the “fence-sitters”. Cause in theory everybody wants to have peace, but when it comes to daily interactions it gets difficult, as long as there´s no peace inside. And people want of course a clean environment, while still buying cheap products, wrapped in tons of plastic. In psychology that´s called the mind-behaviour-gap, describing the difference between thoughts and actions.

Everybody does it. I´m doing it. And I think that´s ok. Nobody´s perfect. Having an ideal is like watching the north-star as a navigation mark, to know in which direction to go. We know we can never reach him, but we´re on track. From my point of view we´re only getting in big trouble when we identify so much with the star, the ideal, that we refuse to reflect and therefore accept our human self here on earth. The one that is experiencing the journey.

This disavowed behaviour is causing a kind of self-inflation, together with pain and trouble, ending in total denial and infatuation. Interestingly enough, people with high standards and ideals have a much higher risk, to walk that path of illusion. They are longing so much for an ideal, that they can not deal with reality as it is. But only when we are facing reality, we are able to create change.

Therefore I really, really ask people to accept their flaws and shortcommings. When we love our messy selves, we have a much higher chance to really evolve and change. When we pick on ourselves, we are becomming destructive and therefore maybe create denial. From my point of view, that´s how we create shadow-aspects. We will than project our inner war onto the outside world, blaming others for the flaws and shortcommings that we can not accept within us, as they are not mirroring our “wanted reality”. Think about it as if life would offer a GPS, you can give in your goal until you are blue in the face, when you do not also allow to see your position in the now, the GPS will never ever be able to find your route. And you can than curse the GPS, but it´s the one using it, that has made the mistake. We all make them. Laugh about it and start anew. Just where you are. Be the change.

The EmPath: Why we can not carry someone elses cross

My own shadow-aspect has been very much entangled with my empathic abilities and my love for humanity. As I can feel others imbalance and pain, I often tried to help them, out of a misunderstood longing for harmony and love. I want all people to be happy and joyful. Therefore I took their stuff onto me very often. Or allowed them to project their issues onto me. But it´s never been working out, as we can not carry others burdens and can not spare them their lessons, which they need to learn themselves.

Sometimes I see that others are not ready for their lesson and therefore stay silent when I should speak up. I know the other can not, or doesn´t want to, make the next step. As all resistance is causing pain, I see how the outcome will hurt them, so I tried to stay silent and help them carry their stuff. But truth can not be held back and being a martyr for love helps noone. When we carry other peoples cross, they do not evolve. And sooner or later the moment always came, when I realized my unhealthy behaviour and claimed they might take back their burden. Well, they´ve never been thankful, but instead blaming me for hurting them and accused me to create their cross. So whom did I help on the long run?

I had to realize that in most cases I agreed to help people that have almost no empathy and therefore compassion at all. As the empath is representing one extreme side of a dualistic game, he attracts the other extreme, people that have narcissistic tendencies. They want others to take the hardship onto them, while they might use the high-horse. We serve noone as long as we do that and agree to play this game of duality. They need their own cross to evolve and we, as the empaths, should care for our own stuff and make ourselves happy, not others. No matter if you are more on the empathic or narcissistic side of the equation, both have the same lesson to learn: self-love.

Noone can do that for us. So love yourself. No matter who you are or where you are on your path, love is the only question, option and answer.

 

The cursed children

Once upon a time … there was a little boy, that had been raised by a narcissistic mother. As she feared her own vulnerability and emotions, she suppressed them in herself and in her child. She believed this world to be a cruel, cursed place and created her own reality. The frightened son didn´t receive love, only a false surrogat, when he acted in a way that pleased the mother. She felt releaf when her child seemed to “be better” than others. But as the child had been punished the same time when not pleasing her, he didn´t create real self-worth,  but absorbed the love surrogate, while deep inside still believing to be unworthy.

Once upon a time …there was a little girl with a narcissistic mother and as the mother feared her own vulnerability and emotions, she tried to suppress them in herself and her child. She believed this world to be a cruel, cursed place and created her own reality. The frightened daughter didn´t receive love, only a false surrogat, when she acted in a way that pleased the mother. She felt releaf when her child seemed to “be better” than others. But goodness, her child was a total failure, and seldom able to make things right. No matter how much the little girl tried, the mother was never truly satisfied. Most of the time the child felt abandoned, just once in a while she received the love surrogate, while deep inside still believing to be unworthy.

When they grew up, the boy became a narcissist and the girl a people-pleaser and of course they´ve been attracted to each other. What seemed like a cruel joke, to recreate the circle of distortion. But this perspective is the cursed one, the problem. The truth is that the universe is a loving one, looking for balance and so(u)lution. To not ask the other for the surrogate, but create self-love and deep acceptance.

In the end all is well and all is love!

Letting go of judgement and resistance

Letting go of all judgement and resistance is a most important step on the own spiritual path, as far as I´ve experienced and witnessed it.

I see the very idea to know what is “the truth” as the original “sin” aka misperception of mankind. I even wrote a whole chapter about it in my last book. To me it is the beginning of all evil and darkness. Therefore darkness is relatively seen real, but not absolutely true. It is caused by a lack of understanding. When we resist what is and believe we know how things should be instead, we are starting a war in us, leading to a kind of mindsplit and all kinds of opposition, fight and war. As things aren´t “right” we get angry, frustrated, depressed, feel vulnerable, unworthy, guilty and so on. As we cannot stand it to feel that split, we create the shadow. And although we have created him, we are percieving him as something on the outside. We project him onto this world, although we are the ones that are in opposition to the light, to creation itself.

When we start to assume that whatever happens in our life leads to something good or has a hidden treasure in it, we start making peace with reality. I know that there are horrible things happening, but I know also that the involved persons don´t know better. “Forgive them, they don´t know what they are doing.” And that is nothing but true. The ones doing you wrong, think they are doing “the right thing”. Therefore stop judging them. Somewhere along your long path of incarnations you did the very thing you are judging now. Accept that you didn´t know better. That is also a very important step to be able to love ourselves. When we start to recognize that we´ve been it all, good and bad, rich and poor, old and young and that it was somehow necessary to become the person we are now, peace arises in ourselves. And how shall I judge someone else, when I trust s/he needs all the experiences that s/he chose? The more we evolve on our souls path, the deeper the insights are, the more is clear that the universe is always looking for balance. Behind all outer turmoil you´ll find a deep peace, love and compassion.

Embrace all of you and all of creation. Allow all that is, as it is go(o)d.  Seeing the world through this perspective, that´s a masters perception. It´s the end of suffering.

Shine your light and love your shadow, you cannot imprison him anyway!