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Mothers Day

Mothers Day and Valentines Day are the two events that are making the florists businesses profitable. One is dedicated to the motherly love, the other to the romantic love.

Honestly they are a shame. If you need a day to honor love, while you don´t express appreciation and love the rest of the year, to buy flowers and sweets doesn´t do it.

As a woman I ask to be honored all year long. As someone who is giving the nurturing, motherly love all year long, to so many people around me, I ask to be respected every single day of the year.

To me it is the expression of a great imbalance and pain in the collective. We (ab)use the feminine and disrespect it. And that´s not a gender-bashing. Has nothing to do with the genitals you are born with. Every human has male and female aspects inside of them. I know a lot of women that do not respect the feminine and see it as less. Even a lot of those, that are feminists or in the goddess-movement are really expressing a distorted energy towards the feminine. Who tries to be ” a better man” or “better than men” is not really stepping into the own femininity. What has a lot to do with the way our society is working, the focus on power and domination. Everyone thinks s/he has to be right, better, superior and being co-operative, caring and loving is seen as nice, but weak. Men might suffer from that distorted point of view too. Not only is it still difficult to express what is seen as feminine as a man, so they have to oppress a part of themselves. But they are also the first to be sended to war, to be sacrificed for the values of a distorted society.

Mothers Day has an american origin, where it´s a national holiday since 1914, the year when World War I started. That´s deeply ironic as one of the roots is a Mothers-Peace-Movement that Julia Ward Howe has founded with the goal that the sons of the mothers will no longer be sended to war. We didn´t stop war, but instead started selling products. One can not buy or sell love, although we try it endlessly.

Yesterday some cows visited my friend and co-worker Muriel Shickman. Cows are a typical symbol for the abuse of this energy. I start to understand why more and more people can not process milk in their body. We want to be nurtured all of our lifes, while we are grown-up long ago. And we do not even pay respect towards these animals, that give us their milk.

We do also not respect Gaia, which until this very day nurtures all of us. Today I went to the nearby park where the Roses bloom. In the evening young people meet there and drink.  They may do as they want, but again and again they throw around their trash, break bottels and leave a mess. Today when I came along, they had left a huge pile of empty boxes, laying directy in front of the empty trash can, to show they do not care. Someone will come along and take care, someone they do not pay respect to. Only the strong and relentless forces are valued. And this is what has to be changed.

And yes, we as women and mothers have enabled this behaviour. It´s not enough to blame the relentless, dominiering forces, we have to take responsibility for not taking our rightful place in society, for not standing up for our values. What I hereby do for myself 😉

Another thing, that hit me today. Do not just honor your mother or care for your kids, but do it everywhere your heart feels called to.

Shine your lovelight <3

 

The externalisation of power

We are raised in a way that we believe deeply in our smallness and unworthyness. We are trained to see us as powerless. A lot of people train us, because they believe it themselves…and some do so because they take advantage of others with intend. And as we incarnate on earth in a very helpless state as newborns, we have evidence for these misperceptions, that then start to form our reality. We may live in an endless circle of fear (false evidence appearing real), as we experience unpleasant circumstances that reinforce our perception and creation. Endless repetitions of poverty, bad luck, ailments, injustices etc.

It might be a running gag throughout the galaxies that on earth we hand over our power to outer circumstances, never aware that we might take back our power at any time. Actually we can never give away our power truly, we just externalize it. That´s why we blame our boss, partner, parents, government etc. pp. But why do they rule at all? Because we refuse to accept our own responsibility. Power equals responsibility. We can not take it for others and we can not hand it to others, that´s just distortion and illusion to do so.

In my family once was a young guy thrown into war and taken prisoner at age 17, while WWII. He and the others have been forced to dig their own graves. How? Well with a gun in front of him. But what did he do? He throwed away the showel and said to the soldier in front of him: “Go, dig yourself.” He took the responsibility that he might die a few minutes earlier, but he refused to hand over his power. Well, the russian soldier didn´t shot him, but has beaten him really really hard and let him lie on the ground to die. But guess what? A female doctor came along, fell in love with her young enemy and saved his life. Very touching and encouraging story. Sometimes life has to send us into the extremes to make us learn our lessons.

I went into the extremes very often myself, I have spend endless times trying to “help” people, that just wanted someone to join their pitty-party, validate their stories or take responsibility for them and carry their burden. And oh yes, I did, as I didn´t know better or thought people wouldn´t know better. But finally I understood and remembered to not allow others to distract me from my real mission.. I came for those, that really want to evolve. For those that want to take back their lifes to walk on their own sovereign path.

I realized, that when I accept how things are, they will never change. And I came as a gamechanger.

No matter if someone asks for my advice or a healing-session: I only work with those, that are aware, that I am just their assistant in their own process. A masterly assistant, as my presence makes it possible to see more clearly or to receive the healing frequencies. I just remind them, as they hold it inside of themselves and I just help to reconnect with it.

People have no idea how mighty they are. If you have ever been haunted by demons or guided by angels…believe it or not, but they are formed by the externalization of the human ability to create. You might feel like sh*t, but you are a living god. One that might have ailments, relationsship-issues, money-problems, wrinkles and no hope….but you created them…and you are the one who can decide to be happy under all circumstances. That´s what I did. I chose happiness over pain, that´s been all…but that´s a tough and lifechanging choice. I had to face some really ugly stories, when looking at my own responsibilities. Most people run from truth, from pain, from responsibility. Please don´t, as you can not escape anyway, but you will suffer endlessly when you try. Turn around, look your demons in the eye and watch them reintegrate into you.

Last year something Teal Swan said while an event in Basel opened my eyes. She said that most of the people in the spiritual community are somehow like drug-addicted. People who are going into spirituality normally do so because they are traumatized. Badly injured, like after a car-accident, having all bones broken. You might give them morphine as a painkiller, but if you just give the painkiller and do no other surgery, they will not recover at all but become junkies. Well it´s true. Most people just want a quick fix, as they need a painkiller, a new high. That´s why they run from event to event, from healer to healer, from teacher to teacher. They don´t want Soulutions, they want their next shot of happiness and escape. I understood that this was a powerful truth. I decided that I will not sell the next shot into nirvana. I came to change this planet, not to escape and I will not waste my time with those that try to avoid the responsibility for their own lifes.

I know it is hard to do, but take back all you´ve projected outwards. You need a helping hand and companions, yes, we all need that once in a while, that´s what all of my work is about, to assist and encourage others. But you can not become dependent on anyone or anything when you want to be happy, free and thriving. And that´s what I wish for all of us…this will bring true abundance, connection and joy to this planet. No one can do it for you and you do not have to do it on your own…but for yourself. <3

Lack of selfworth

You can not give someone else selfworth. And you can not love someone else enough, that he loves himself. It´s impossible. I´ve tried it all my life…and in many others before.

All that happens is that you get dragged into their distorted games and stories. And again you can not see clear enough, to make them see. It´s impossible. We can not be someone elses god. And no one can become ours.

This is the root of all illusion. That someone else can make you happy, healthy, rich or important. Only you can. Because you are already. But you have to realize it yourself.

So I started my journey to be whatever I want. To integrate my aspects and be myself. A sovereign being, taking fully responsibility. I can not take responsibility for someone else, for glorious gods, pretending to be worthless beings, who need my attention and admiration. It´s not working. They are like a black hole, sucking up all your light. I know their state of being, been there, done that. The only way out is selflove and selfworth. They go hand in hand.

All I can do is becoming whole again and inspiring those, that are also on this journey. I can not walk it for someone else, I can not carry them. And every time they demand it, they show me, that they are still slaves and prisoners. They have all my love and all my compassion, but they need their own. They have it inside and that´s a truth they refuse to understand. They´ve been handed the key a thousand times…and are still refusing to use it. We can not make others understand, that they are themselves all they have ever searched for.

Grouping instead of herding

My Higher Self sended me the last two years to places, that I thought I do not know… and my human self had no idea why to go there. It sended me to Israel, Colorado and Norway. Well, it turned out I knew all the “unknown” places I´ve been sended to. I do not remember much details from my pastlife in Colorado, but the Rockies have helped me to reconnect with a greater eternal power, that I had natural access to in that pastlife. And of course I have been living in Israel. Finally in Trondheim I stood even at our own grave from another century, together with my pastlife husband next to me. Who wasn´t realizing at all, he was supposed to be dead. Too funny. So I learned to trust my Inner Guidance totally, when sended on a task.

This year I have been sended to quite different “unknown” places. Going public and doing group-work. First I´ve been told to do the Monthly Rose Touch Session and now lately I received the topic of a webinar-series to give. Both is group-work of course and I always thought I am not good at grouping. I never fitted into groups and now I should be even the one leading group-sessions?

I can sense energies and therefore the dynamics and hidden intends in groups have always been very obvious and frustrating to me. I saw how people tricked and manipulated each other, how fractions have been builded, destroyed and how goals have been sabotaged. Everyone had his own selfish agendas and all together they´ve been used by their leaders. The many following the ideas and interests of the few, that pretended to know what´s best for all, while moving people around on their chessboard. And of course it´s been energy-feeding of the worst kind. Even when I did not know this terminology at that time, I saw it happen all my life. It was “normal”, like so many distortions on earth…but it has always felt absolutely wrong to me.

I remember being in an urban gardening group and people spoke their mind until one of the leaders spoke another…and all people, believing they are of the new consciousness, just dropped their own thinking in a splitsecond, when the brainbug made a choice they thought to be totally stupid two minutes before.  It´s never been understandable to me, how people become in groups totally mindless…and heartless.

I´ve once been a trainee in a company with a very strict boss, whom everyone feared. When the boss disliked a person, noone made friends with the outsider, that would be dismissed soon. I was also often the outsider, but by own choice, being friendly with most people, but staying independent. One day a young woman, red hair, strong, proud Leo, has been sended into the office of the boss. The young woman seemed to have lots of friends in the company and they spend their lunchbreak together, went out shopping and often even spended the evenings together. Well, it broke my heart when this young woman came out of the office of the boss, sobbing like a little child. I would have thought it to be impossible, that she could be broken in an instant by a few cruel words. Well it´s not been the words, it´s been the energy behind them, as I recognize in hindsight. And I was even more shocked when no one of the “good friends” dared even looking at her. I couldn´t believe what I had to witness. I knew I would need a reference from that big boss very soon, but I knew I had to look into the mirror even sooner, so I stood up, went to her, hugged her and gave her a tissue. Than I pulled her out of the room, into the kitchen, to calm her down.  No, group-dynamics of the old energy are for sure not for me!

I listen to everyone, as everyone is holding some wisdom. And I love to co-operate, but I take no orders, but those from my own source. I am following the truth of my heart, as the beloved sovereign daughter of the divine. No one is allowed to rule over me and I need no membership to give love and support to others. It is my very nature.

I love to see people thrive. Happy, healthy people make me jump for joy. And more happy, healthy people are the only option for mankind to coexist with Gaia. That´s why I accepted to work with people instead of watching out for a cabin and a cat in the woods.

But of course I am confronted with the old energy herding issues when being present in social media or when working with groups. People often have zero awareness how they are used. They believe to express their own thoughts, while they are manipulated by those that want to be fed and admired. Divide and conquer is still working.  And so I had to ask my higher self: “I want people to be independent and free. What the heck is going on that you want me to herd people?! Or why do you want me to deal with the distortions of those wannabeanimportantleadersheps, that feel challenged by me and my unshepishness?” The answer was: “Quite the opposite! These are the reasons why you have been called to do groupwork. No follower, only sovereigns.” The rest came not as a thought or sentence, but as a complex understanding; all the answers at once. Source is multidimensional…to put it in words in a row is limiting for it.

I have been shown my memory from a higher realm, a kind of heavenly meadow, that I have mentioned before: I remember being at a place in perfect harmony with my surrounding and the other beings, each an individual, but all aware of each other and connected on the inside, through our consciousness, but we were free beings. No obligations, no leadership, no agenda, no brainbug. Just being ourselves and coexisting. That´s how the law of nature is working, bringing together the perfect mixture of diversity. I was told while my download that it is also the blueprint of the Age of Aquarius.

And a few weeks ago, a former shadow aspect, that turned out to be a knight, has shown me the picture of a roundtable, where he placed all of my inner aspects. That´s grouping as it should be. At a roundtable all have a voice. One is opening it, but everyone is just as important as the other. They want the best for all, not just for the king or queen, but for the whole queendom, so everyone will be accepted in it, to thrive in it and be worthy and valued for being himself.

I understood that I am among those, that are holding the inner knowledge how to bring in some tools of the new earth. In fact it is not new, but the original creation, before it went into total distortion under the service to self, herding here the human sheps for so long and fooling all people. And in the spiritual community it had been just a bit more sophisticated, tricky and subtile, but it has been just the same mentality. Mind-control and power-games. Someone called it New (C)Age, and there´s much truth about it. All eating the same, dressing the same, thinking the same, acting the same and be lie ving this is their party, while they had de-live-red the food for the wolf, who´s still been herding them.

Total loss of the own sovereign creator self. I know it seems to be not easy, but I know the only way to be a sovereign, is to be a sovereign. In the example where I have dared to comfort the crying woman, I received my  reference. I went to the boss to tell him that I need it as I  am going to leave and he answered: “Write it and I´ll sign it!” This guy was known to never ever sign anything without lots of changes. So I wrote myself an almost perfect reference, as I knew I have been a real good worker. I went to the office of my boss, he read it and signed it without to hesitate even for a splitsecond. When I came out of the office, smiling and head-high, all came running to me, and almost collapsed when they saw the signature. When I look back, I seldom had trouble with the big boss. They know a sovereign, when they see one. It´s been the wannabethetopsheps, that did cause me trouble. But they are living proof that my work is needed, as people need to reconnect with their original, sovereign being to create a new earth with their gifts and talents.

Whenever you and your truth is not valued, whenever someone else claims to know your path, as they claim to be better, more evolved or holy, than you are fooled. Whenever you have to obey to the rules of others, than you are fooled.  Never take others power or give yours away.

The grouping of sovereign beings only occures to enjoy each others beauty, to learn from each other, to encourage each other, while everyone is free to be himself, to come and go by free will. Noone has to be held accountable for others demands, when everyone is able to take full responsibility for the own being.

Whatever someone is telling you, including me, has to resonate with something inside of you. Than you know it is of value for your individual path. And no, you do not have to walk him alone. I am myself much more connected than I have ever been. Your vibe attracts your tribe. And sends the others away.

All of my work, may it be a one-on-one session, the monthly Rose Touch, a webinar or my books and articles have one and the same intend: to assist you on your own journey. Do not follow me, but get inspired to follow yourself. The only reason why I shine my light in the public is to remind you to:

Shine your light!

 

 

When you love yourself you become free

Today its been four years ago, that I decided to “love, honor and respect myself”. I married myself and started a journey to integrate all of my aspects and to create peace within. I acted spontaneously, because I had enough from the distorted games between men and woman. I understood that searching for fulfillment through someone else was madness. I had always taken other people way too serious and that made me vulnerable and undermined my self-worth. Others had been able to fool, manipulate or dominate me…in the name of love. I realized that to “need” another being to be happy, was pure madness. It´s been normal, everybody played these distorted games, but that didn´t mean that their normal was healthy for me.

To “marry myself” not only changed my point of view on partnering, but on all kind of relationships. I hereby freed myself and those around me. I started to accept myself more and more, to bring back my own aspects and I started to live the only eternal lovestory we all experience, the one with my divine core, my essence, my soul self.

When we need “the other” to be our fairy tale, s/he has to behave as we wish and expect them. That´s not love, that is slavery. You are the one to make yourself happy, to fulfill your dreams. To love ourselves is the end of all excuses. If we are not happy it is because of us, not because of someone else.

Most of my relationships of all kinds became much better the last four years. As I do not need others, I can really enjoy being with them. I love to co-operate with others, to exchange wisdom, points of view,  experiences…or to just be with them, to enjoy our being together. That doesn´t even need a reason at all.

Of course there are still people I do not get along with very well, but I just let them be. Everyone is as free as I am. The only real trouble I experience once in a while is with needy people. They will try to hold me accountable for all they do not create themselves in their lifes. As they are no sovereigns, they will try all: domination, manipulation, lies, demands, blame, shame, guilt, scapegoating, projection, denial and revenge. And they find a thousand reasons why I have to be, do and act as they want me to.  But it all comes to one point: They need slaves to fulfill their needs, as they do not dare to be sovereigns and to take responsibility for their own being.

Please do, as to love, honor and respect yourself will free you <3

You are already abundant…do not allow lack to infiltrate your mind

We all have abundance in our life. Maybe sometimes not in the bank-account, but in many other areas of our life. I do not know where I read it, so I cannot give that beautiful soul credit for it, but once I read how a woman realized she has abundance in…sox. She owns plenty of sox…and lives in california. That´s been a real gorgeous moment, when she shared that insight. We all have abundance in our lifes. Maybe sunlight, maybe free time, maybe nature.

Lately I realized how my own areas of abundance have been shaped by my own values. The areas of my life where I experienced plenty have been those, that are filled with my love. And how else could it be, cause that´s how the Law of Attraction works. I love books and all of my life I have had an overwhelming abundance in books…or at least access to lots of books. And I shared knowledge and wisdom always very freely, so it returned to me threefold.

Another thing is nature. I love nature and moved into an area that has lots of it, bringing peace and balance to me. As I am very sensitive to energies my surrounding is really important for me.

In todays world freedom and time might be the most precious things one can have at all. Everybody´s running for more distractions and posessions, but a few years ago I recognized that personal freedom and time to do what I love is way more important to me. So I became a downshifter, only working 3 days a week to earn what I need for a really simple life. So I am abundant having time for the things I love. Writing, spiritual studies, healing work, meditation and nature. I chose that life a few years ago with intend, letting go of a lot of the average definition of abundance, to make this life possible. I have a tiny appartment, a low income and not much possesions. But I am free to be me and I really enjoy this. I even realized that I still own too much.

What are the areas in your life where you already experience abundance? Appreciate it. Gratitude is the attitude of a Master. What you really love and enjoy will grow. It can not be else, you attract it like a magnet through your field. And that´s the reason why it is not called the law of needyness, demands, entitlement or deserving. It is the law of attraction and known as: “What you send out, comes back. Or “What you sow, you reap.” So send out gratitude and you´ll have more reason to be grateful.

One important insight about creating abundance I found when I realized that I experienced a feeling of lack in my life when I tried to fullfil someone elses demands or dreams. Whenever I felt bad about my own life it has not been because of me, but because I didn´t match into someone elses “normal”. I didn´t own a car, couldn´t invite someone in my home, couldn´t take a plane to see them or couldn´t make a big present for someones birthday. I do not fit into the values of others, their definition of success or wealth. But I am living my definition of abundance and what I see as a good life. And that´s what I came for. To live my own abundance, to create my own happiness, noone elses.

The universe will not help us, when we try to please others and want to create for their wants and needs, to heal their feelings of lack. That´s why I called this category in my blog the “heArt of creation”, and not the “eGo of creation”. When your wife has a low selfworth and therefore you try to buy her a house, juwelery and a big car….chances are high you will go bankrupt or she will run away with someone else. You can not make someone feel rich who has the mindset of a beggar. Lack creates lack. And lack is what most peoples feel, it is their driving force. Let it not infect and affect you. Anchor in the abundance that you already have in your life and choose your vibes wisely. Celebrate your abundance and enjoy plenty in whatever form you find it.

Shine your light!

The EmPath: Why we can not carry someone elses cross

My own shadow-aspect has been very much entangled with my empathic abilities and my love for humanity. As I can feel others imbalance and pain, I often tried to help them, out of a misunderstood longing for harmony and love. I want all people to be happy and joyful. Therefore I took their stuff onto me very often. Or allowed them to project their issues onto me. But it´s never been working out, as we can not carry others burdens and can not spare them their lessons, which they need to learn themselves.

Sometimes I see that others are not ready for their lesson and therefore stay silent when I should speak up. I know the other can not, or doesn´t want to, make the next step. As all resistance is causing pain, I see how the outcome will hurt them, so I tried to stay silent and help them carry their stuff. But truth can not be held back and being a martyr for love helps noone. When we carry other peoples cross, they do not evolve. And sooner or later the moment always came, when I realized my unhealthy behaviour and claimed they might take back their burden. Well, they´ve never been thankful, but instead blaming me for hurting them and accused me to create their cross. So whom did I help on the long run?

I had to realize that in most cases I agreed to help people that have almost no empathy and therefore compassion at all. As the empath is representing one extreme side of a dualistic game, he attracts the other extreme, people that have narcissistic tendencies. They want others to take the hardship onto them, while they might use the high-horse. We serve noone as long as we do that and agree to play this game of duality. They need their own cross to evolve and we, as the empaths, should care for our own stuff and make ourselves happy, not others. No matter if you are more on the empathic or narcissistic side of the equation, both have the same lesson to learn: self-love.

Noone can do that for us. So love yourself. No matter who you are or where you are on your path, love is the only question, option and answer.

 

Outer Authorities or Self-Responsibility

The actual Full-Moon in conjunct with Pluto in Capricorn brings  issues with authorities, structures and rules into the collective consciousness. There´s a great tension between these issues, represented by Capricorn, and its opposite sign Cancer, that represents our emotional side, our feelings, our family and roots. This happens on a global and on a personal level.

It reflects a problem humanity has to face at the moment. Humanity is going through a kind of puberty, it wants to grow up. Outer structures, rules and authorities are holding us back. Unless we decide we don´t let them and do things our way.

Well, we have to, there´s no other way to find our freedom to express ourselves. But one thing is for sure: humanity will make a lot of mistakes until they´ll be grown-up.

I´m a double-capricorn and lots of my close friends and mates have represented the cancer-principle. The opposite always shows what we need to become whole, therefore it attracts each other. I love the emotional, sensual side of Cancer. And they for sure love something about me, maybe a feeling of safety and being grounded.

In the collective Cancer is representing the child, the emotions. And well, in this world full of structures and rules we all have a wounded inner child inside of us, that has not been allowed to express its innocence, creativity and playfulness. We really have to express these aspects of us to heal. We can not grow up when our inner child is hurt. We might “play” adult, what we did for so long now, but we won´t be, unless our inner child is healed.

Each starsign has a distorted and a healed expression. Cancer, when not transmuted, can be the kid that goes totally on our nerves: demanding, moody, passiv-aggressive drama-queens. They feel what they feel and can not understand that others have their own wants and needs. They believe themselves to be the one and only god and all else do just exist to please them. But don´t tell them, cause they are easily hurt, and if so, they might get an anger-attack and destroy all that comes their way.

Well and healed they are very loving, caring, intuitive, nurturing, creative, empathic Artists, having a great love for this Planet. You cannot help it, but love them, and being with them makes this world colorful and joyful, a never-ending sensual party and adventure. We need that to make our next step.

And now you have the distorted Capricorn: the authority, law, cold, rigid, stubborn rule-maker, over-ambitious and running for fame and fortune, diamonds and gold. But don´t tell them, cause they might put you into a prison-cell for the rest of eternity and never again look at you, until you forget yourself, that you ever existed.

Well and healed Capricorns take responsibility, have great awareness and deep wisdom and compassion. They give stability, safety and are able to overcome all obstacles and to create the impossible. They bring things into reality. We need that, to make our next step.

We all blame the rigid structures of the old earth, but it is also the childish egoistic behaviour, that has harmed this planet. When two unhealed aspects blame each other, that´ll bring no solution. Unfortunately we´ll see a lot of childish anger-burstouts and rigid, stubborn authorities…both fighting for power. Happens at Hamburg while the G20 just right now.

We have to be responsible for our own actions, than no outer authority can stop us. Not blaming the other, but learning from them, while focussing on our path. When you want to create a Yoda-Style Zen-Master, one who really rocks, you have to use the healed aspects of Cancer and Capricorn (plus the other 10 signs). Be self-responsible, while you giggle your way through this world, seeing obstacles as a game, that you´ll resolve in a creative way, never loosing the goal, while going with the flow. That might bring a New Earth,  just by using “the force” that exists in all that is.

Guilt is a most destructive force

Guilt is a horrible burden onto someones soul and the outcome is always destructive, as no one is able to carry guilt. Because people fear it, they run from that horrible feeling and therefore create more shitty stuff as they don´t recognize their creation. Or they blame the other and also recreate it, as they aren´t able to see it. Or they deny it, what will also create destructive outcomes.
Fight, flight and denial are very destructive survival technics out of the era of karma, as they repeat patterns endlessly, instead of finding solutions and to move forward.

Responsibility is the opposite of guilt. It comes in when we dare to face our actions. That might need bravery, but there exists no other way to end the suffering.

Fact is: we are mighty beings and responsible for our creations. Sometimes we don´t like them, as the outcome has been shitty, but we can´t change the past. We have to accept it, if we didn´t get the outcome we wanted.
All we´ve got is the present moment and we should make use out of it.
If we think, we might have made a mistake in our past, that is ok. We didn´t know better in this moment for whatever reasons. It is as it is.
By taking fully responsibility we look at our shortcommings and try to learn from them. The more we are aware of our actions and intends, the less likely it will be that we recreate that unwanted stuff.

To feel guilty means we are clinging on a past we can´t change. Insane. Responsibility is bringing us to the present moment, the only one available and the only one where we can change our destiny. By taking responsibility for our past, we are learning from it and enable us to built a brighter future.
In case we refuse that, the lesson will return, but in a hardened way. In case we feel guilty, we are building up resistance, what makes even the perpetrator a powerless victim. That´s a lie and no good for noone.

One reason why people have problems to take responsibility for their actions is that they struggle with the outcome of their words and actions. Be careful, that is where the sneeky thief guilt wants to grab you again. Never let guilt make you powerless.
In case you feel very sorry and wish you could have changed the outcome of the past, take a closer look if it is possible to really change that. That is a matter of balance. Don´t deny that you´ve created imbalance, for example in a relationship. From a higher perspective something like procecutor and victim don´t exist at all. But you are in duality and every healing here is created through balance. The reason why it feels bad is that you feel the imbalance.
It won´t help to deny, you´ve created that, cause you can feel it. The other side feels it also.

Tell someone you feel sorry, pay back stolen money. If someone you´ve done wrong refuses to speak to you or your fear is too big to face them, write a letter. If you have made mean remarks, explain why you did so and find something nice about this person and tell her. Show yourself freely and give love into the system. Be creative in this area. When someone confesses and says sorry (well and mean it), love and grace can come in to close the gap between these persons. And that is always possible, no matter how huge this gap seemed to be. Instand healing is always possible and I´ve seen unbelievable love and grace floating into the healing relationship. It´s magical.

On the other hand I´ve seen really nice people freakin´ out totally, when someone denies what he had done. That is way more cruel sometimes than the first act of imbalance. The first one might have been accidential or unconscious, but denial is an intential act of ignorance. Tell someone who has lost a loved one in a massacre, that it never happened. Or the spiritual advanced version: „You chose that. If you feel pain, that´s your problem.“ Well I´m responsible for my feeling, but you are responsible for your actions. If someone is bleeding the hell out of him, maybe someone stabbed him. Very simple.
To deny that is a sign of total lack of compassion. People lack compassion, cause their heart is frozen and closed, because they are afraid of the feeling of guilt and therefore they don´t take responsibility. Maybe they have once been manipulated through guilt and therefore closed their hearts. Like a child closing the eyes and pretending not to be there. Don´t do that, look your actions in the eye.

If it has been too huge, so you can´t bring back a balance, cause the person isn´t alive any more or you´ve taken a life and can´t bring it back, no matter how much responsibility you take, than just do your best: Help someone else, who is available. Do something good for humanity if you feel so, but don´t get excessive here (backdoor guilt), and than just let go. Divine grace is always working and you are a beloved child of god, no matter what you did. We all have been murderer, thiefs or cheaters in our many lifes.
Forgive yourself and ask for devine help, if you struggle with that. Your intend will bring in help.

Remember what Jesus said to the sinner: „Go and sin no more.“ In this sentence is all included. If someone sins no more, means he had taken responsibility, cause otherwise he would repeat it. He has learned from it. And he is still loved and still free.

Shine your light!