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Mothers Day

Mothers Day and Valentines Day are the two events that are making the florists businesses profitable. One is dedicated to the motherly love, the other to the romantic love.

Honestly they are a shame. If you need a day to honor love, while you don´t express appreciation and love the rest of the year, to buy flowers and sweets doesn´t do it.

As a woman I ask to be honored all year long. As someone who is giving the nurturing, motherly love all year long, to so many people around me, I ask to be respected every single day of the year.

To me it is the expression of a great imbalance and pain in the collective. We (ab)use the feminine and disrespect it. And that´s not a gender-bashing. Has nothing to do with the genitals you are born with. Every human has male and female aspects inside of them. I know a lot of women that do not respect the feminine and see it as less. Even a lot of those, that are feminists or in the goddess-movement are really expressing a distorted energy towards the feminine. Who tries to be ” a better man” or “better than men” is not really stepping into the own femininity. What has a lot to do with the way our society is working, the focus on power and domination. Everyone thinks s/he has to be right, better, superior and being co-operative, caring and loving is seen as nice, but weak. Men might suffer from that distorted point of view too. Not only is it still difficult to express what is seen as feminine as a man, so they have to oppress a part of themselves. But they are also the first to be sended to war, to be sacrificed for the values of a distorted society.

Mothers Day has an american origin, where it´s a national holiday since 1914, the year when World War I started. That´s deeply ironic as one of the roots is a Mothers-Peace-Movement that Julia Ward Howe has founded with the goal that the sons of the mothers will no longer be sended to war. We didn´t stop war, but instead started selling products. One can not buy or sell love, although we try it endlessly.

Yesterday some cows visited my friend and co-worker Muriel Shickman. Cows are a typical symbol for the abuse of this energy. I start to understand why more and more people can not process milk in their body. We want to be nurtured all of our lifes, while we are grown-up long ago. And we do not even pay respect towards these animals, that give us their milk.

We do also not respect Gaia, which until this very day nurtures all of us. Today I went to the nearby park where the Roses bloom. In the evening young people meet there and drink.  They may do as they want, but again and again they throw around their trash, break bottels and leave a mess. Today when I came along, they had left a huge pile of empty boxes, laying directy in front of the empty trash can, to show they do not care. Someone will come along and take care, someone they do not pay respect to. Only the strong and relentless forces are valued. And this is what has to be changed.

And yes, we as women and mothers have enabled this behaviour. It´s not enough to blame the relentless, dominiering forces, we have to take responsibility for not taking our rightful place in society, for not standing up for our values. What I hereby do for myself 😉

Another thing, that hit me today. Do not just honor your mother or care for your kids, but do it everywhere your heart feels called to.

Shine your lovelight <3

 

Healing the fe/male distortion

It´s the biggest tragic-comedy of all times. The fe/male split, expressed by so many heart-breaking stories. Different names, faces and places, all playing out endless variations of the same story.

Do you know what men search? (Yes, I know sex, the orgasm…but what is an orgasm, but total unity and melding of sorts?). What is it that makes them so intrusive? It´s the longing for total acceptance through the surrender of the feminine. Being themselves and being admired for their being. That´s why they always have to “be the best”, as only than they will be adored and experience the female surrender.

And what does the feminine look for? For admiration, of course. She wants to be adored for her worth. That´s why women wear absurde things and torture themself to be beautiful enough to be admired and “wanted”.

And that´s why men pay women for sex. To make her accept him, and may it be for 3 minutes behind a trash-can. And she will give it to him, cause the pennies she collects prove her beauty.

In most cases what is called a lovestory are two people, that feel lack, coming together to heal lack. Codepency. That´s why there is so much drama in our Love-Stories. We fight with the other, so s/he gives us, what only we can hold for ourselves.

We might play all kinds of drama on the outside, but they all are a reflection and projection of our own inner Story. The hide and seek, the hunt and withdrawal are just the externalization of the fear of surrender towards the own inner unity and melding. Pretending to search for Love that is unavailable, to distract from the refusing of the own inner ultimate melding and union. As long as we do, the show must go on on the outside.

A man who doesn´t love and value himself enough to feel safe, will never be able to give a feeling of safety to the women he chooses. So they will never feel valued or trust him and open up fully. Instead they will learn to behave more male around him, to not get overtrumped.

A woman who has not found her selfworth will never find the one who will give her the feeling to be worthy. No matter how many flowers she receives or how rich her husband is.

All that we search in the other is what we have abandoned in ourselves. We just externalize it, project it on the outside and create these unbelievable tragedies, comedies and crimescenes that we call Lovestories.

And also on the collective level it is just the sum of all the individuals, that are struggeling with their not integrated “other half”. I used to fight against authority figures, when I was younger, until I realized I am my own ultimate authority. I do not have to fight patriarchy, just give them a “no” once in a while, when they do not pay me the respect that they want from me also. And the rising of the feminine? It is true. Women take back their power. But this will not work out by fighting the male, that they carry within themselves, too. Don´t blame “the other”, become responsible yourself.

Why fight with a guy in a relationship or on a global scale with men about my worth? I love my own inner male and female aspects totally. I became a tender loving badass, able to deal with every guy coming along my way. If they can not handle me, that´s where they are not complete within themselves. Has nothing to do with me.

And that´s it. When I see how women still try to please men I know they are still codependent. And a guy running after a woman, still not knowing he is worthy all the love and beauty of this world. And holds it within himself, not needing anything from anyone. Just alike the woman that searches for Love in all the wrong places, as she is not loving herself without any compromise.

We have to become complete within us. You can not become a master and not have healed your inner split. Start the most awesome Loveaffair with yourself, including all of your aspects, male, female and child. Become your own holy family. Your aspects have to be integrated within yourself, then you are absolutely whole and complete and will be free to react on the outer world just as you choose to.

You have no idea how adorable these beings are, may they have a male or a female body, that own all of their being. Beautiful beyond words, no matter the looks. That´s how we were created. Breathtaking awesome. Return to it.

Shine your eternal, integrated Lovelight <3

Adam and the feminine split

In the bible there have been two women for Adam. One was created alike him, but he wanted to dominate her, what she refused. So she had to leave paradise (that´s paradise, to be submissive to an entitled dominator, thinking he´s “better”?!), being the representative of the demonized female energies. The witch/bitch, known as Lilith. She will never allow Adam to own her, as this would mean to make herself less than she is.

So Adam got a second woman, Eve. His wife and the mother of his children. Well, she is said to be created out of his rib…. That already speaks volumes. She´s not even an own being, but just created by what he wouldn´t miss at all. And that´s exactly how she´s treated.

No wonder Lilith will never allow Adam to own her. Who wants to give herself fully, birth his creations, nourishes them and is not even being honored for it, but taken as granted? If Eve would break her own heart and leave husband and children, to become free and sovereign again, she would suddenly represent Lilith and than he runs for her. But just as long as she is not present.

The reason for that has nothing to do with Eve/Lilith or however you name these archetypes. The male can just not allow the unity with the feminine as an equal. Why would anyone ever have to belittle someone else? Being better, more evolved than? Only attractive when not present? Because he doesn´t value himself and does not even really dare to be one with the feminine. That´s why he tried to dominate her in the first place, to then make her worthless. It just mirrors the inner conflict.

Honestly, the feminine principle is not honored at all, although nothing could exist, when not coming through her. How weird is it, that she has to become a demon to have some kind of freedom (although always hunted, therefore always haunting Adams shattered mind).

And of course this plays out with outer characters, but it has nothing to do with the outer world, but is taking place within every individual, no matter the gender. Archetypes that we just project on the outside, to declare us independent of them. Make them wrong, to feel right. How you perceive and treat others, shows how you really feel about yourself.

I see it, I hold love and compassion while I know the struggle it´s just an illusion, created by the fearful mind. I do not have to make others less or better. I am content within me. I honor myself and the other. Because this is who I am and that can not be defined by someone else. There´s no split, no lack, no story, no separation at all, unless you create it.