Filters of perception

Noone on earth has a clear point of view. And the closer you are to the object, the less clearer the overview. You´ll only focus on one small part of the whole picture. That´s the reason why we see the issues of others so clearly, but at the same time struggle with our own.
To make things worse, we all have our personal filters. They are, like a pair of glasses, totally changing what we see. If you ever tried to watch through colored glasses you´ll agree that seemingly stabile reality changes totally when you change glasses/colours.

The problem is that noone else can change the glasses but the one on the inside. Trouble is most people aren´t even aware of their strange perspective, as they are so used to it, that it seems normal to them.

And, as I had to experience often, noone is able to assist someone, unless this person is ready for it. As long as one isn´t aware of his problem and gives intend to find soulutions, noone is able to help this person. They will blame others, destiny, karma, god, society and of course you for their problems, but they´ll never watch the one in charge: themselves.

Everyone who has witnessed a mate or a child to be somehow stuck knows it very well. You might try to assist them, encourage them as much as you want, it´ll just drive you mad and cause disagreement. They won´t even understand that you want to help them, but think you are picky, want to belittle or restrict them. All you say or do has to pass their filters and therefore will be misunderstood.

As hard as it is to witness this with a loved one, there´s only one thing you might do: Care for yourself and let go!
If someone chooses to take poison, there´s no use in joining him. Choose to stay healthy yourself as you are only responsible for one person and that is you.
And in case they would ever choose your help, you´ll be strong and stabile. Tell them you´ll be there, when they are ready, but don´t help before they ask you to. It´s the planet of free choice and even if someone would insist to go through their own kind of hell, as in cases of an addicted child, you´ll have to let them.

Interestingly enough if you choose to care for yourself, things change on the outside quite often. Sometimes even instantly, as you take pressure out of the system, when you let go.

Noone ever teached us, but being selfish enough to care for ourselves, might encourage the other to do the same for himself. And it´s the loving selfcare that might change the situation for the better, as it opens for soulutions.

Shine your light!

How to deal with emotional loss

We all have to face it in our lifes: Someone is dying or leaving us and this loss is creating a feeling of heartbreak and emotional pain.

The word heartbreak describes a strong feeling of pain, that seems to tear our heart apart. It´s because we can´t stand this two different perspectives. The one perspective of beautiful memories, mirroring our feeling of love totally collides with the perspective of the loss, often sharpened with elements of tragedy, betrayal or abandonment. We can´t bring together these two different points of view and therefore our mind and our heart can´t process the information, as we asume only one might be true.

It is and it is not. On the physical realm all is in constant change and therefore nothing lasts forever. All things born are going to die. But only their physical forms do so. From the souls perspective nothing is ever seperated. There´s not even a bond that could be riped. Souls aren´t bonded, they are part of one creation. Every love we experience is part of the one love that is the only eternal that exists.

You are the one, chosing the perspective. As the physical realm can´t be denied, make room to process this feeling of loss and pain. Don´t suppress your emotions, but know they are like the clouds in the sky. Coming and going, changing forms and fading.

While the process of grief try to stay centered and aware, don´t run away, but don´t loose yourself in self-pity. Give yourself the comfort of compassion. Compassion has a loving, assisting quality, that will carry you. It´s the water to wash and heal your wounds with love. It´s a total different quality as pity, which weakens you and would make you drown in a flood of muddy water.

Love yourself enough to give yourself time and space for this transformative process. Nourture yourself with everything that gives you the feeling of comfort, may it be a walk in nature, the starlight, a cup of tea, music or creating arts.

And than let go and change to the bigger perspective. No matter what the circumstances are, the eternal truth of the soul is love.
I´ve been working with people with a quantum healing form of family constellations. There has never ever occured one tragedy where the involved souls haven´t shared pure love with each other, no matter how extreme the circumstances on earth have been. Try to honour the shared path, that now seperates for a while until we all reunite. After giving room for the grief, now give room for the love. Be thankful for all you´ve shared with each other. Than honour the others souls path and let go. Pay respect to your own souls path and let go.

Don´t resist and don´t fight reality. It is as it is. The involved souls agreed to do so, otherwise reality would be other. You can´t know the reasons for it, as you are in human form. Our earthly perspective can´t grasp the souls path. There is absolutely no reason to stay in misery. Beauty and love isn´t lost, but still alive, inviting you to rejoin them. Have faith and trust and move on.

Shine your light!

Inspired

The little owl

The little owl

Once upon a time, there was a little owl, working in mag(net)ic service. She was working for the Prayer and Ordinary Orders Registration Office, also known as P.O.O.R.
To be honest, she didn´t like her job very much. Nor did she like the jokes her family-members made about her, being a poor owl, earning a poor income.

Every day tons and tons of all kinds of messages arrived, all sounding very urgent. The little owl worked really hard, but it never went better and she and her co-workers had often to work overtime.
But although it´s been a lot of stressfull work, the little owl recognized she was bored after a while. The messages were so often the same: „If I would have just more money…“, „Lord, make him love me.” or „ Oh please, please let this day soon be over.” Oh no, the last sentence made an echo in her mind!

The little owl started to make mistakes and one day she was called into the office of her boss. Her boss said: „Have a seat. It can´t go on that way! Do you know what you did? You´ve sorted Sarah Johnsons: „Fuck you!” she pointed at the guy, taking her parking lot, under „Relationship Arrangements“! The little owl, starred down at her owl-feet and mumbled: „Just took her literal. People shouldn´t say things they don´t mean!“ Her boss looked at her and stated: „You don´t like your job much, hmm?“ „Well, how could I? The prayers became less, but the ordinary orders are flooding our office. What are the guys at the Ordinary Order Parcel Service doing? OOPS, we didn´t reach you?“ Why don´t they deliver what people need? I´m really cheesed up with all the neverending incoming orders.“
„Hmm, you guess it would be more fun to deliver orders?“ „Of course it is. Must be beautiful to give all this beautiful gifts to the people.” „Well, don´t forget, we deliver what they need, not what they´ve ordered.“ „But, isn´t that just amazing?! By the way, seeing it that way, Sarah Johnsons order was sorted perfectly. She´s overworked and…. you know. She ordered exactly what she needed.“ Her boss starred at her and the little owl wasn´t sure if he would burst out with laughter or anger. But he took a deep, deep breath and sighed. „You are a really nasty little owl. Well, as everything is always working out heavenly perfect and you´ve got to make your experiences, I´ve got to tell you that they are looking for new owls at the Divine Delivery Department.“ The little owl almost couldn´t believe it. She fluffed her feathers in exitement. „I´m going to work at the DDD? That sounds already like singing.“ „Well, fill in this formular and after lunch break you´ll go the the Devine Enhanced Apprenticeship Terminal Hall. The little owl hooted again and again: „Thank you! Thank you, so much.“ While she left the office, she already started to twitter to her family and friends, she´s going to be a DDD-Owl soon.

The education for the DDD turned out to be way more difficult than the little owl had expected, cause divine deliveries are very special. Of course the ordinary parcels were heavenly perfect also. All brought what people needed and therefore there was love in every parcel, even when it came in karmic wrapping paper. But the DDD parcels came at a special point in peoples lifes. They arrived when they had worked it out and created a huge potential to really express their true self. The DDD delivered opportunities for huge changes in their lifes.

At her first working day the little owl looked at all the beautiful gifts she had to deliver and her eyes began to shine. So much love in each one of them, so many beautiful potentials. She almost couldn´t await to deliver the first parcel. Before she started her tour an angel showed up and handed her a little beeper. „Call me, if you need me. This job is more difficult than one might assume.“ And he was right. You wouldn´t believe what the little owl experienced. People denied to have ordered at all, didn´t receive any reminder and other claimed the gift should be bigger or have more gold on it, to show the importance. Some said they couldn´t afford it, although she said it´s for free. Others insisted to not have enough space, the parcel is too big. Almost nobody took his parcel instantly. Not to mention they would be happy about it.

One reason was that they didn´t understand what they received, as they looked at it with human eyes and only saw stuff. You don´t know what you don´t know. One guy got a little scratchbook, not knowing he would use it one day when his mobile wouldn´t work, to write down an idea that would change the whole planet. The pair of shoes a woman refused, she would have worn, to stumble with it and bump into the love of her life. The DDD Parcels brought change and people are afraid to change. And they wanted their issues to be fixed for them instead of solving the core of it themselves with heavenly support. They felt overwhelmed. They didn´t trust heaven and didn´t trust themselves.

At the end of her first day the little owl sat at a huge amount of refused opportunities and felt sad. She had lost a few feathers and sighed. The beeper angel showed up next to her. „Why didn´t you call me?“ „I´m a failure and didn´t wanted to bother you.“ The angel hugged the little owl. „No, you´re not. You´re doing great. And you don´t bother me. To assist you is my divine job and I love it. Not to ask for help doesn´t make sense. When you thrive, the DDD orders can be easier delivered.
While the angelhug the owl started to relax. „It´s harder than I thought.“ „It is, but you´ll learn to deal with it. Just don´t take it personal. That´s the same mistake the humans make, they take you for the DDD, so they bless you or curse you, while you are just doing what heaven wants you to do and what is needed. And you´re showing up at a difficult point in their lifes. Before the new arises, the old is torn apart. They have lost their old lifes and can´t see the new.“

The angel helped the owl to bring the parcels to the storehouse. The owl asked: „When there are so many refusals and lost opportunities, why isn´t this house bigger?“ Oh, the parcels are stored at a multidimensional level, there´s no time and space.“ „Why not?“ „Well you wouldn´t believe how long it sometimes takes to deliver them.“ „But does that mean all will be received?“ „Yes all…sooner or later. But to heaven it´s always now.“

It´s never about you

It´s often said, that people do to themselves what they do to others. That sounds quite aloof, but it´s not. It´s a profound truth and you might take these things literally.

The one fooling you, is fooling himself.

The one betraying you, betrays himself.

The one belitteling you, feels small himself.

The one fighting you, is fighting himself.

The one rejecting you, is rejecting himself.

The one oppressing you, oppresses himself.

The one abandoning you, abandons himself.

The one limiting you, is limiting himself.

Of course the majority of people is totally unaware of these patterns. But if you understand this principle, people are very easily unmasked.

The reason why this projection is taking place is, that most people don´t refer to your real being. They are totally self-absorbed. Everything else in the world exists only in their context. To them you are just an externalisation of their inner picture of you in a role as their friend, husband, wife, boss, child etc. They are just looking at a mirror, blaming him for the reflection he offers. It might seem as if they´d attack you, but they don´t. How could they? They have never dared to reach out to connect with your whole being, with all your many facettes and dimensions, that is living in an astonishing wonderland behind the looking glass, just like Alice.

Shine your light!

Move and Change

I´m about to move my blog over the next days to wordpress, as this offers more possibilities. I should have done that from the start, but wanted to make it more comfortable for someone else. Life is so funny and all about changes and lessons.

2016 has been the year of clean-ups and surprising truth, so I bet we all had lots of lessons.

1st lesson: Sometimes we care for others, that don´t give a shit. Is that bad? No, everybody just expresses their truth. Stay with yours.

2nd lesson: Don´t believe words. Watch the actions.

3rd lesson: Don´t let others actions or words hurt you in any form. See through it to the core and become invincible.

Each lesson has also blessings and I´ve experienced a lot this year. When we don´t resist all is serving us and I am grateful for the enormous growth, love and joy I´ve been offered in 2016.

Each clean-up wipes away the dust and brings forth the true colors.

My colors: I am glad to be your soulutioner, to bring inspiration, insights and perceptions to the ones, willing to evolve and grow on their souls journey. I´ve been prepared for my mission in many lifetimes and I am all about love, joy and happiness. I am very grateful for my connection to others of my own Kind, that accept me the way I am, without trying to control or “fix” me. Feels like coming home.

So I enjoy even this move, although it takes a bit time. But it´ll prepare for 2017. The year of new beginnings.

Shine your light!