Guilt is a most destructive force

Guilt is a horrible burden onto someones soul and the outcome is always destructive, as no one is able to carry guilt. Because people fear it, they run from that horrible feeling and therefore create more shitty stuff as they don´t recognize their creation. Or they blame the other and also recreate it, as they aren´t able to see it. Or they deny it, what will also create destructive outcomes.
Fight, flight and denial are very destructive survival technics out of the era of karma, as they repeat patterns endlessly, instead of finding solutions and to move forward.

Responsibility is the opposite of guilt. It comes in when we dare to face our actions. That might need bravery, but there exists no other way to end the suffering.

Fact is: we are mighty beings and responsible for our creations. Sometimes we don´t like them, as the outcome has been shitty, but we can´t change the past. We have to accept it, if we didn´t get the outcome we wanted.
All we´ve got is the present moment and we should make use out of it.
If we think, we might have made a mistake in our past, that is ok. We didn´t know better in this moment for whatever reasons. It is as it is.
By taking fully responsibility we look at our shortcommings and try to learn from them. The more we are aware of our actions and intends, the less likely it will be that we recreate that unwanted stuff.

To feel guilty means we are clinging on a past we can´t change. Insane. Responsibility is bringing us to the present moment, the only one available and the only one where we can change our destiny. By taking responsibility for our past, we are learning from it and enable us to built a brighter future.
In case we refuse that, the lesson will return, but in a hardened way. In case we feel guilty, we are building up resistance, what makes even the perpetrator a powerless victim. That´s a lie and no good for noone.

One reason why people have problems to take responsibility for their actions is that they struggle with the outcome of their words and actions. Be careful, that is where the sneeky thief guilt wants to grab you again. Never let guilt make you powerless.
In case you feel very sorry and wish you could have changed the outcome of the past, take a closer look if it is possible to really change that. That is a matter of balance. Don´t deny that you´ve created imbalance, for example in a relationship. From a higher perspective something like procecutor and victim don´t exist at all. But you are in duality and every healing here is created through balance. The reason why it feels bad is that you feel the imbalance.
It won´t help to deny, you´ve created that, cause you can feel it. The other side feels it also.

Tell someone you feel sorry, pay back stolen money. If someone you´ve done wrong refuses to speak to you or your fear is too big to face them, write a letter. If you have made mean remarks, explain why you did so and find something nice about this person and tell her. Show yourself freely and give love into the system. Be creative in this area. When someone confesses and says sorry (well and mean it), love and grace can come in to close the gap between these persons. And that is always possible, no matter how huge this gap seemed to be. Instand healing is always possible and I´ve seen unbelievable love and grace floating into the healing relationship. It´s magical.

On the other hand I´ve seen really nice people freakin´ out totally, when someone denies what he had done. That is way more cruel sometimes than the first act of imbalance. The first one might have been accidential or unconscious, but denial is an intential act of ignorance. Tell someone who has lost a loved one in a massacre, that it never happened. Or the spiritual advanced version: „You chose that. If you feel pain, that´s your problem.“ Well I´m responsible for my feeling, but you are responsible for your actions. If someone is bleeding the hell out of him, maybe someone stabbed him. Very simple.
To deny that is a sign of total lack of compassion. People lack compassion, cause their heart is frozen and closed, because they are afraid of the feeling of guilt and therefore they don´t take responsibility. Maybe they have once been manipulated through guilt and therefore closed their hearts. Like a child closing the eyes and pretending not to be there. Don´t do that, look your actions in the eye.

If it has been too huge, so you can´t bring back a balance, cause the person isn´t alive any more or you´ve taken a life and can´t bring it back, no matter how much responsibility you take, than just do your best: Help someone else, who is available. Do something good for humanity if you feel so, but don´t get excessive here (backdoor guilt), and than just let go. Divine grace is always working and you are a beloved child of god, no matter what you did. We all have been murderer, thiefs or cheaters in our many lifes.
Forgive yourself and ask for devine help, if you struggle with that. Your intend will bring in help.

Remember what Jesus said to the sinner: „Go and sin no more.“ In this sentence is all included. If someone sins no more, means he had taken responsibility, cause otherwise he would repeat it. He has learned from it. And he is still loved and still free.

Shine your light!

Forgiveness

As guilt is a heavy and useless burden, we might need forgiveness to let go and free us. No matter what the issue, forgive as soon as you can. Others and yourself.
It´s of no use to cling on old wounds. Clean them and heal them as soon as possible. Don´t ignore them. If you feel anger or pain, process it as part of the cleansing, let the stuff out, to not let it get infectious. Than let go. We are all imperfect beings, all of us fail sometimes. That is just part of the human experience.

Sometimes I listen to elderly people that are angry at their siblings for stuff 50 or more years ago. Can you imagine that? 50 years, seasons coming and going, and not fully enjoying it, cause the injustice of the other, having taken a piece of chocolate or broken a toy, is still alive, while the persons are already on their way to the grave? That´s like running around day by day carrying a rock around. Who would want do that?

It´s the most beautiful form of forgiveness when both involved parts can talk to each other and let go together, but very often that is not possible.
So you can do that easily as an inside job. No matter if you forgive someone else or yourself. In most cases people find it way more harder to forgive themselves, but no matter what the issue might be, to not forgive just makes no sense. If you stay unhappy you will just make people around you unhappy also and that will ruin theirs and your life. So where is the point in that? More to feel bad about? More rocks to carry?

Some years ago a close friend did me really wrong and we cutted the contact. She lived 4 years with a heavy burden, thinking about her failure every day. Well, at this point in time I hardly ever thought of her at all, but lived a happy and free life, while the concept of guilt still had her in the greedy claws, totally useless und unnecessary.

She had lost first father and than mother in these 4 years and suffered, regretting that through own failure she had lost me also. Finally she saw in the internet that I seemed to live my dreams, had moved in another town and been writing books. That already made her feel better. She hadn´t ruined my life. So she took herself a heart and wrote me a letter. She was afraid of my reaction, but knew she had lost me already, so it couldn´t get much worse, if she would receive an angry answer or no answer at all. But of course she didn.´t. We found peace together.

Sometimes we can´t talk to the person we did wrong, but need to lighten our soul anyway. I guess that might have been a reason, why the idea of a confession box came up. To free the suffering soul from the burden and find forgiveness. Well, of course in the old energy also good ideas have been misused for control and power. The idea behind it stays good anyway. If you have a hard time forgiving yourself and need assistance, maybe you can find someone you trust and who would never judge you or misuse their knowledge.

If not, find other ways to process your thoughts and feelings. What often helps is to write it down. Afterwards you might even install a little ritual and give your „sin“ to a river or burn it in a fireplace. Or you might give it to mother earth and bury it. Whatever feels right to you, do it!
No matter what part you played in that scenery of pain, forgive the other or yourself to live a free and happy life.

Even if you know the other involved person really, really hates you still, forgive them anyway. Don´t give away your power, don´t allow anyones bad feelings to poison your life. Honestly, very often others don´t even need a reason to hate you. Their reason lays in their own person and point of view. You just reflect an inner feeling back to them, maybe their mum or whoever. Haters always find a reason to hate.

I made co-workers really hatefull just by not joining the complaining coir, but having a smile on my face. They really hated it when I came along and been happy, cause that made them suffer even more from their own darkness. Of course they just hated themselves and their way of living and working, but some might never get that. Should that make me feel bad? Should I feel guilty for being happy while they suffer? Or should I be angry at them, because they gosipp and make mean remarks? To me they are a perfect reminder to be even more happy to live a joyful life, untouched by them. Maybe one day their darkhouses are going to crash and they come out of it, cause it´s just more fun to be happy. But that is also none of my business.

We can´t change others and we can´t change the past. But we are in charge of our lifes and the now-moment is the one, where we are planting the seeds of our future. Let it be a free life and a happy future. You deserve it. Everyone deserves it. Who would run around carrying a heavy rock? Would look a bit strange. If you don´t forgive the other and yourself you are doing exactly that. Don´t! Be happy and free.

Shine your light!

Projections and Scapegoats

Projections and Scapegoats

Finding SoulutionsPosted by Natalie Tue, August 23, 2016 16:29:50

Projections and Scapegoats

I realized lately why it´s been said that Jesus died for our sins. He didn´t. Noone dies for sins, may it be own or others. There´ll never be enough scapegoats and crosses to heal the pain of this world. So this saying just shows that Jesus hang at the cross because others projected their stuff onto him. They did him wrong and he loved them anyway, cause love is an undying force, noone can kill. I understood it, cause it happened also quite often to me that people used me as a canvas for their pictures of destortion. I guess that´s quite normal for lightworkers to be blamed. The ones that attack just hope their sins may die or vanish with the scapegoat. Won´t happen, no matter how often I´m dragged to a pyre or struggled to squash me. Sometimes I am even kind of bored by all this repetitions and I feel that it´s high likely Jesus not even stopped for a splitsecond to love Judas. Didn´t help anybody anyway, I guess, cause all the drama took place nevertheless.

Being the scapegoat is no fun as we all might have experienced. Actually it´s been quite painful to me. As I´m an empath I suffered because of their attack plus because I feel sorry for them and their pain, that makes them act the way they act. But after all I finally accept noone can unban someone else. You can´t love someone enough that he leaves hell. Everyone has to let go of the own shadows and demons by own intend. I had yesterday a little family drama going on and realized how much one involved person suffered and invested to build up her story, that makes her good and me evil, while it´s been the bloodiest lie of all times. But she had to, cause she could never live with the truth. Actually she could, cause she suffers because the soul knows it anyway, but that part she don´t understand. Only truth could end the pain and make room for love and grace, but won´t happen in this lifetime that´s close to an end.

So what to do if someone projects their stuff onto you? Well, I used to fight because of the inequity, I used to argue because of the lies, but it is all absolutely useless. They project their stuff because they need to, to make their own pain bearable and to keep the own illusions alive. They´ll keep going and you can´t stop them, no matter what you say or do.

So, I decided to let them all project whatever they prefer. Free will is king on planet earth. I´m out, playing in the sun and having fun.

The inner storyteller sees only black and white

 

Everyone has a storyteller in his mind. As an author I am very aware of the fact that one story might be told in very, very different ways. But unknowingly there´s an author in all of us. Everything you experience he´s refering to from his own point of view. He´s relating to older stories, is making assumptions and suggestions, adding remarks and comments. Within a second we have a story instead of informations. And not two persons have the same story in their mind, even when they witness the same scenario.

We´ve got to be very aware. This inner storyteller is a huge divider. He divides the „I“, whos point of view is always correct and the other „I´s“ whom are all wrong. The „I“ can´t stand other points of view, as it identifies itself with his personal point of view. The other, wrong, stories have to be oppressed, fighted or even killed, just to be sure to be right.

Real, open, direct conversations would or could help to get a bigger picture. But most people aren´t really interested in a true communication, which could lead to a kind of communion with someone else. The „I“ has to be protected and separated. Therefore you could talk to someone in his I-solated story mind for hours, but never reach him. No matter what you say or do, and not even your pure love can reach this person, his filters wouldn´t let the message through. Chances are high, that you´d loose your balance also at this point. In the end you would only have two stupid ego-i-dentifications, each insisting to be right while the other is wrong. Been there, done that and seen it too often! It´s boring and destructive!

It´s way more interesting to open up for inspiration, new points of views, growth, change and exchange. Why recreate the same story again and again? Why not invite new points of view and listen to other impressions? We don´t loose our Identity when we connect with others, we are becoming richer. Instead of black and white, right or wrong, colors occur.

Emotional Environment Protection

More and more we are becoming aware that we poison us, our children and grandchildren when we use herbicides and throw away plastic stuff.

But how about our poisonous emotions, causing mean words and actions?

As an empath it´s often been really stressful and painful to me to live on this planet, cause I could sense very clearly what´s going on, while people have been acting out their inner garbage. Your emotions have an impact on your environment. That´s been how that happened quite often: When your boss yells at you, you than make a mean remark to your partner, who is treating the kids badly and they torture the dog. Everyone in this scenario is responsible for giving forth the pain. Each of them could have broken the painchain by a conscious decision. Trouble is to bring awareness into the situation and to re/act in a more conscious way.

When I am suffering I try to stay on my own until I´m ready to let go of the shitty stuff. I try to talk only to persons with a high level of awareness, cause they are the only ones that might help me out of my imbalance instead of making it worse.

It´s a decision we have to make consciously to not give forth what might have hurt us. But most people just want to act out their drama, as it is a kind of release to them, creating emotional turmoil and violent actions until their whole environment is infected with this poinonous stuff.

It´s very normal and human to get angry, upset etc. And if so, we shouldn´t oppress our feelings, but we might take responsibility for our waste, even the emotional one.

Love yourself enough to emotionally clean-up yourself and love this world enough to offer love, compassion and healing.

Things that might help to process painful, destructive emotions are: meditation, prayer, all kinds of arts, humor, nature and sports. Make contact with your emotions and than make them move: e(nergy in) motion.

Shine your light, beloved ones!

Pay forward

We all know what payback means. Someone gave you something and now you owe it to this specific person. That´s been the old system. It´s a traders mind and we even used it in our intimite relationships. “I love you and now you owe to love me back.”

Dare to change that.

Start to pay forward. Give something unconditionally to someone else and not want it back. If this person can´t believe it, tell them that in case the day occurs they have more than enough, they might do this to someone else.

It doesn´t matter how big or small it is that you give, just that you give it with an intent of freedom and love. It´s a gift. Don´t care about what the other does with it. That´s none of your business.

Try it. That´s the new earth. The planet where everyone is abundant on all levels.

Inspired

Rocky water

Once there was a stone in a stream. This stone was proud of his strenght and despised the water, touching him again and again, until the stone got furious and angry. He beated against the water, opposed it and tried to push it away. But this intangible element just kept flooding. The stone couldn´t stop it, no matter how rocky he behaved.

The stone recognized he started to loose substance in this fight, so he yelled at the water: “Will you stop to drown me, your fleeciness is disgusting!“
The water wondered „Why do you resist?“
“I´m a solid stone, don´t touch me with your weakness!“
„You call me weak? I`m even stronger than you and don´t you dare to stand in my way!“

The stone opposed the water, beating incessantly against it, but nothing did help. The more he fighted the water, the harder the water pushed back. The more the stone resisted, the more he lost substance. The more the water pushed, the more the stone was in the way, disturbing the flow with resistance.

But finely both became tired and suddenly they decided to surrender. And oh wonder, their world became smooth and easy. The stone purled: „Dear water, it´s fine that you flow. Embrace me with your lovely stream.“ The water mumbled „Oh dear stone, it´s okay. Just hold me tight and give me direction.“

They now form a beautiful little river in union, crossing the middle of my town. The egrets have lunch in it, children playing at its shore and I love to go there for a walk.

Find the hidden treasure

Every seemingly difficult lifesituation has a hidden treasure in it. As long as we focus on the problem and get hypnotized by the “story” we can´t see it. But it´s there. Always!

Every storm takes away the dust and every rainshower waters the land. Accept their existance and don´t resist them. You can´t avoid the storms, but you might become stronger, wiser and more self-confident with each and every one you went through.

There is an absurde idea living inside us: The idea a good life would be a life without challenges. That´s just not true. We came here to make experiences, to explore life and to grow. From this standpoint every difficult life-situation is in our favour.

With this point of view you´ll stop clinging on the problem, but search for solutions. You are working with life, not against it. That´ll spare you a lot of pain and energy. When life is bringing us on our knees, it might be a good opportunity to observe the ground. Maybe there are interesting things to find. Or you realize you have really good friends, that´ll help you stand up again. When there´s noone, than it might be time to learn about independency.

Ask yourself: If my soul had chosen this situation, what could be the reason? Trust your inner voice. If you don´t find it, try to see your situation from a distant perspective, as if through the eyes of a stranger. Often the observer sees it quite clearly. Have patience if you shouldn´t see it instantly, but be assured there´s a hidden treasure for you. Even to know that helps already and hands back your own power.

Let life be in your service. Even people trying to bring you down are unknowingly working as your servant, may they know it or not. Life is conspiring to work for you.

Shine your light!

Selfworth

One of the most destructive energies on this planet is a low selfworth. And everybody seems to be infected by this virus of distortion.

Who can truly say to love and accept themselves fully? Not many. The closer you are to mastery, the more you will. But beware, the idea of being better than others, to be spiritually more evolved, isn´t a sign of selfconfidence, but of the ego, coming in through the backdoor masked as the spiritual ego. In case you should spot it, don´t pick on yourself as it´ll lower your selfworth, therefore your ego will blow itself up….that´s a cat endlessly hunting the own tail.

Its not possible to convince someone to let go of the idea to not be good enough, until they are ready to accept the own imperfections. Ít´s like a madhouse. Men know it quite well. When they tell a woman, they like the red dress, she´ll assume she looks fat in all the others. When you tell her blue doesn´t suit her, she´ll get a nervous breakdown and will ban even the blue sky out of her life. Guys, she´s just unsure. Love her and stay calm. Do the same with your own imperfections. Just love and accept yourself.

And yes, I´m so selfconfident, that others call me sometimes hightoned or arrogant (that´s just their pissed-off ego). Shows just cleary I´ve got to stand tall and brave. The ones cursing me, need the black sheep the most. But of course I´m also struggeling with my selfworth sometimes. The reason why I´m able to write about it is, that´s been a huge issue for me, as I´ve never been “good enough”. Made me try to become better. Didn´t work. Now I try to be me, no matter what. Works much better 😉

We´ve been teached through thousands and thousands of years of distortion that we are never good enough. No matter how good we are doing, we shall never pass paradises gate, to just be happy and loved.
To judge what is good (enough) and what is not brought us in big trouble. That´s the core behind all sins.
It doesn´t matter if it´s been through religion or through unspoken cultural laws: We´ve been endlessly teached we have to reach, own and be something, that we are not. Therefore we are never good enough.

Well, what helps? Accept it.
“Oh, I´m imperfect? Okay, let´s enjoy life!” Stop reaching out for perfection.
I will never be loved for being a skinny role model. Guys can´t pimp their selfworth with we me clinging unsure at their arm, while all the other guys begrudge them. Nope, Won´t happen! And I´m glad, cause these guys could never stand the strong woman that I am. It´s perfect they are sorted out this way. All our imperfections are for some reasons perfect in this very moment. God created you in his own image. There´s a reason why things are the way they are. You are fighting reality. Won´t work! Out of a human perspective we just can´t know why things are like they are.

Try to love and accept yourself. Every day a little bit more. Cause your low selfworth is the sneakiest thief you´ll ever find. He´ll steal your money, as you won´t dare to reach out for the well-paid job. He´ll make you spend money on things you don´t need. And the worst: He´ll steal your time and our incarnation won´t last that long. He´ll make you wait for something. To be skinny or rich or become good enough to get the good Job.
And guess what? Even when you´ll reach that, it can´t make you happy, cause the low selfworth remains inside, makes you watch out for the next imperfection to overcome.

But your low selfworth is not only a thief, but he´s a murderer of the peace on this planet. He´ll murder your inner peace, he´ll hunt you day and night, till your last breath. He´s the enemy on your inside. And he´ll make you fight yourself and others. You´ll fight everyone who´s not perfect – well of cause your personal unfailing idea of perfect. Everyone who doesn´t match into your idea of perfection becomes the enemy and you´ll fight him, giving all your energy and often even your life for this madness.

As long as we have this low self-confidence, we´ll be a perfect sheep, grouping in sheep flocks. And it´ll never come to our mind that our shepherd is the one not only guiding us to green grass, but that he´ll shear us and sell us to the butcher. What makes humans even worse than sheeps is, they not only follow the rules of others, but they´ll make sure everyone else does also. Cause when they spot someone, who starts to become more selfconfident, they´ll attack him immediately. “Did you see the dress she wore? A woman of her age! What does she think, who she is?!” “Did you hear, he´s writing now. Didn´t know we have a new Yates beween us!” Everyone who dares to be himself will be attacked, laughed at and casted out.
Might be the reason why I´m often hanging around with the outsiders, as I see their potential. Between the black sheep you´ll find the ones closest to the point to be themselves.

All our movements to bring peace in the world are great, but we have to work on our inside as well, as it is the root of all distortions. Bring peace to your heart. Accept others and yourself in all their and your perfect imperfections. And in case, you might become more selfconfident, get ready others will blame you for that. Don´t give in, they are just prove the world needs your confidence to be yourself.
You´re great. You are unique, cause the universe is too creative to produce copies. It loves diversity. It couldn´t resist to create you, just the way you are.
Shine your light!

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