Being an EmPath is for many a path of struggle, pain and exhaustion. When we feel everything around us so intensely, that´s just a massive overload, especially when we live in huge cities, meeting lots and lots of people every day.
Therefore it is absolutely crucial that we learn to master our special abilities. In my case my abilities have to do with “tuning into energy fields”, especially emotional energy fields. And this picture of “tuning in” is pointing out clearly how to handle all the energies.
Think of yourself as a radio. One that has not learned by now to choose the prefered station and lets all of them in at once. Plus it might have an issue with its ground wire.
When all radio-stations come in at once, that´s of course just a horrible noise. No wonder when an EmPath is depleated at the end of the day, feeling just stressed out. When I look back I really wonder how I´ve been able to survive under these conditions.
What helped me on my path was to finally realize that I´m able to choose the radio station. When I first heared of that idea I doubted that this is possible and you might feel the same reading this. But it really is possible, just it needs a.) your intend and b.) practise.
There are many tools out there, that help while that process. I personally chose some breathing technics from the Heartmath Institute, as they are very quick, easy and effective to use. Shamir Ladhani offers every monday a free 15 minutes session, the “Espresso Shot” for people to learn about these methods. It helped me to learn to anchor within myself, what is crucial for all people at the moment, but especially for EmPaths.
When it comes to the intend you might stumble over an interesting point: You have to ask yourself, why you chose to open all channels at once. Of course it is somehow part of your being to be empathic, like being a cat or a human is a given and can not be changed. But when your skill is hindering you, makes you struggle even, than it is worth looking at it, how it comes that we overdo it so much. I know that this doesn´t seem like a conscious choice, but even our subconscious choices have a reason and can be changed. There might be a hidden benefit or belief behind it. I can not answer this for you, just share what I found out in my case. Maybe this inspires you or gives you a clue for finding out about your own reasons.
As I mentioned before I didn´t believe that I can have a say when it came to my empathic abilities. I couldn´t imagine, that I can learn to fine-tune them and so I just felt overwhelmed, without a choice. And that´s just not been true.
Another believe that I had, one of my reasons why I lived with all channels open at once, has been that in my childhood I had to be constantly alert, as I´ve been raised in a dangerous environment. I realized that this had imprinted me with the idea to live in a dangerous world, that needs constant attention on my surrounding.
Another obstacle was the strange idea to be somehow responsible for the well-being of the people around me. Many EmPath have that, those on a spiritual path especially. I will explore this topic deeper in an upcoming article, but for todays topic it is enough to realize that this is one of the misperceptions, that cause an EmPath to focus on the outer world, to prioritize “the other”.
When you found out what is the hidden benefit or belief that causes you to overdo your beautiful talent, you can feel into it and decide if the benefit is really worth it and if your beliefs are helpful for your path.
As many EmPath struggle with it, they do not know that they have an option to learn to handle their gifts and still serve mankind.
In my own case I found out, that I serve mankind best when I learn to anchor within myself. Therefore I had to learn to make my own well-being and groundedness my top priority. The reason for that has been my Monthly Rose Touch. I had to understand that I have to be fully anchored within myself to be able to hold a stable connection to the participants all over the world.
It´s been common sense that made me avoid distractions as much as possible each month while that special day. It didn´t make sense at all to allow someone to challenge my serenity, when dozens people would benefit from my balanced state while the Rose Touch. So I stayed with myself most of that day, to not have outer distractions. And that worked out so well and I benefit so much from it, that I learned to take that centered attitude into the rest of my life.
Fact is, that I always knew how peace, love, harmony feels like, that´s my “home station”. That´s the real gift I brought in. I guess most of the EmPath know how home feels like, that´s why they get stressed by the dissonnant noise here. Fact is also that I came to send out this station, for sure I did not enter this life to instead loose myself in others disharmonious vibes.
What helps anchoring and grounding? Being in nature, meditation and all kinds of arts help me to ground and focus and I know a lot of EmPaths that enjoy these relaxing activities, too. But you have to find out what suits you personally. All I share is just to inspire you to find your own truth.
And I can tell you that the more you practise to fill your cup first, the more you are able to become an overflowing fountain. And that´s what an EmPath is as his/her highest potential. A fountain of Love, Joy and Compassion.
You are precious and much needed in this world. Please treat yourself with much honor, love and respect. That includes to not allow others to feed off you or to bring you down. You help no one when you allow those destructive behaviours, may it be you towards yourself or by allowing outside sources to mistreat you.
When you follow that path you´ll be more and more able to be resilient towards outer influences. But you have to go inwards to be able to go outwards. You have to first take care for yourself. And then inspire others to also take care for themselves. In this way we´ll co-create a world of happy, fulfilled people.
Shine your precious Lovelight.
If you´ve injoyed this article and would like to learn about “Energetic Boundaries“, the recording of a NeuSpace Conversation about that topic might be also helpful for you.