It´s the biggest tragic-comedy of all times. The fe/male split, expressed by so many heart-breaking stories. Different names, faces and places, all playing out endless variations of the same story.
Do you know what men search? (Yes, I know sex, the orgasm…but what is an orgasm, but total unity and melding of sorts?). What is it that makes them so intrusive? It´s the longing for total acceptance through the surrender of the feminine. Being themselves and being admired for their being. That´s why they always have to “be the best”, as only than they will be adored and experience the female surrender.
And what does the feminine look for? For admiration, of course. She wants to be adored for her worth. That´s why women wear absurde things and torture themself to be beautiful enough to be admired and “wanted”.
And that´s why men pay women for sex. To make her accept him, and may it be for 3 minutes behind a trash-can. And she will give it to him, cause the pennies she collects prove her beauty.
In most cases what is called a lovestory are two people, that feel lack, coming together to heal lack. Codepency. That´s why there is so much drama in our Love-Stories. We fight with the other, so s/he gives us, what only we can hold for ourselves.
We might play all kinds of drama on the outside, but they all are a reflection and projection of our own inner Story. The hide and seek, the hunt and withdrawal are just the externalization of the fear of surrender towards the own inner unity and melding. Pretending to search for Love that is unavailable, to distract from the refusing of the own inner ultimate melding and union. As long as we do, the show must go on on the outside.
A man who doesn´t love and value himself enough to feel safe, will never be able to give a feeling of safety to the women he chooses. So they will never feel valued or trust him and open up fully. Instead they will learn to behave more male around him, to not get overtrumped.
A woman who has not found her selfworth will never find the one who will give her the feeling to be worthy. No matter how many flowers she receives or how rich her husband is.
All that we search in the other is what we have abandoned in ourselves. We just externalize it, project it on the outside and create these unbelievable tragedies, comedies and crimescenes that we call Lovestories.
And also on the collective level it is just the sum of all the individuals, that are struggeling with their not integrated “other half”. I used to fight against authority figures, when I was younger, until I realized I am my own ultimate authority. I do not have to fight patriarchy, just give them a “no” once in a while, when they do not pay me the respect that they want from me also. And the rising of the feminine? It is true. Women take back their power. But this will not work out by fighting the male, that they carry within themselves, too. Don´t blame “the other”, become responsible yourself.
Why fight with a guy in a relationship or on a global scale with men about my worth? I love my own inner male and female aspects totally. I became a tender loving badass, able to deal with every guy coming along my way. If they can not handle me, that´s where they are not complete within themselves. Has nothing to do with me.
And that´s it. When I see how women still try to please men I know they are still codependent. And a guy running after a woman, still not knowing he is worthy all the love and beauty of this world. And holds it within himself, not needing anything from anyone. Just alike the woman that searches for Love in all the wrong places, as she is not loving herself without any compromise.
We have to become complete within us. You can not become a master and not have healed your inner split. Start the most awesome Loveaffair with yourself, including all of your aspects, male, female and child. Become your own holy family. Your aspects have to be integrated within yourself, then you are absolutely whole and complete and will be free to react on the outer world just as you choose to.
You have no idea how adorable these beings are, may they have a male or a female body, that own all of their being. Beautiful beyond words, no matter the looks. That´s how we were created. Breathtaking awesome. Return to it.
Shine your eternal, integrated Lovelight <3