Why shadow-work is essential if we want to bring in change

In the shadows we find all we believe we can not deal with, the unacceptable and unwanted. But as we do not look at it, it has to repeat its message again and again. And that´s the reason for all our repetion modes in life. The reason for our patterns, that we can not leave behind for some reasons. If we want to bring in real changes, we have to integrate the shadow aspects.

And that´s the real important point, that people miss, when they believe that positive thinking will bring them all they want. Positive thinking is important, it brings you to the vibration of the wanted – but the reason why the unwanted will also occur, sabotaging your success and the reason why this journey is such a rollercoaster, is the refused lesson of the shadow.

People are afraid of their shadow, because they think they will find darkness there, or even worse “the evil”. But that´s not true, that´s a huge difference. Darkness doesn´t hide the evil, but  the unconscious. And very often it is the light that hides in the shadows. I give you an example out of my own shadow-experiences, that might fit for many others, too. Whenever I showed signs of self-confidence in my childhood, the adults got really upset with me. “Who do you think you are?!” I have been punished for all signs of self-confidence. So I have been hiding my selfworth in the shadows. And I had attracted people with a lack of selfworth in my life, of course. Guess what happens when you finally go into the shadows and free your selfworth? The ones with a hidden lack of selfworth will start to attack you, because now they will feel their own shadow, their own hidden light. You will make them unconfortable and therefore they will try everything to bring you down, in any way they can imagine. That´s the reason why we often stay in the shadows, also. We are afraid to not be liked, to loose family and friends. But what kind of friends are these, when they want you to suffer with them, instead of being happy and free? I had some heartbreaking moments, when others told me, I would evolve too quickly. I will not lie to you, it may be that some of your fears will come true. I did loose people along my way. And it hurt me, as I love them. But my love stayed untouched, while I moved on. I didn´t loose anything, but gained a lot of freedom, strenght and clarity.  When they´ve lost their love, it´s been nothing but an illusion. They are free now…to see the illusion or to create a new “love”. The ones that I´ve “lost” have nothing to offer, that I would need.

Think about it. Staying with the others in the shadows, will not heal them or you. To stay in misery, just to have the comfort of others around, who want you to be also miserable, can not be the so(u)lution. And this goes for all kinds of shadows. We can not keep them, when we really want to shine our light. All of you will have to make a decission. If you want to create the new, you have to free your shadows, you have to face your fears. You can not create the new, while staying the old. You´ve gotta grow, evolve, free yourself, letting go of all that isn´t you.

May you find the strenght to look at what you´ve been hiding. It is an aspect that belongs to you. Welcome him home. And shine your light!

 

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